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writes: Hello,I have a question about child raising. We are emigrated form Europe,and raised our children here, when they were very young.We dont have any special religion,or tradition we kept. Also,we didn't keep our first language,we always spoke English to them. They were very bright kids,and yes it was a bit hard to put down our foundations, but we did a good job.Good income,and security.We never drink,or do drugs.And we gave lots of love to our children. Now they are adults,but with serous problems.Some with drugs ,some with social.. . Now the psychologists thinks,it is because they are emigrants,and they never really could fit in here..Well,I have hard time to believe this,as I just can't see the logic.If we never forced our old country on them,why would this contribute to their upbringing. Please give me your thoughts.Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2010): Dear almasdp!No, Im not embarrassed to tell,where did I come from. But if I din't miss it somwhere, I did not see, you mentioned where did you come form.. I.m not a very patriarchate ,country lover person, more of a cosmopolitan myself. |I| never had my own country identity,if I would I would be still there. I don't believe people should bring their country with them, if they leave it voluntarily. Why do they leave if they love it so much? So I never went to into keeping the roots direction. But I SHOWED very strong morals, love and understanding. Also, we show a lots of books ,music, etc, what they couldn't get from school.. Yet, they are very lost. And I'm looking for the reasons. Everybody here gave me very kind answers, and I do care about rude ones too. As I want to find an answer, and sometimes,its not what we want to hear! So,Im very open to hear, what ever I need to know..
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2010): Try support groups! Maybe ,you can get some ideas. But I really don't think ,you have anything to do with this outcome! Take care!
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reader, kayla20  +, writes (11 March 2010):
 alot of people try drugs usually kids try drugs when they are told not to as if you tell someone not to do something they do the opposite.i dont think the fact that you are emigrants has anything to do with these issues kids go through stages in life and if there social behaviour is of some concern let them see a doctor they might have some issues or even a problem they need medical attention with.
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