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female
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30-35,
*issdaisy
writes:My boyfriend and I have been going out for a little over a year. After the first month I met him, he was arrested, I stayed with him through that. Then, six months later, he went to court for what he was charged for and put on six months probation. Throughout his probation, we spent everyday together, and we were inseparable. In the beginning he said I would forget about him, but I didn't, I stayed with him, and even went to his AAA and NA meetings with him. I gave him all the support I could. Recently, he turned 18, and was let off probation. Ever since then, it seems like he wants little to do with me. I understand that hes free now and its a little exciting, but I feel as if we're drifting apart. Hes never awake, (even when I'm home with him), and he never wants to do anything with just the two of us anymore. I'm hurt because I was with him all through out the rough times, and now it seems now that times are easier he wants nothing to do with me. Am I just being needy? Or is it unfair and I should call it quits? Reply to this Question
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reader, MartiniBaby +, writes (23 January 2009):
Awww you're a sweetheart. But anyway to the point, I don't think you're being too needy at all. It's normal for a female to want and crave attention from the one she loves, but I mean think about it. You two have been with each other Everyday for a long period of time. He might just want to have a little fun with his friends and he's tired because well...it is a big world out there and so much to do, and so much he might have been missing out on. Let him have fun, I think you should try and have a little bit of fun too yourself. However, he should try to make time for the two of you, let him know that you feel neglected and would like some quality time with him. If it was me I would demand my time and let him know what I want if you get to the point where youre completely tired of the emptiness you feel. But that doesn't work for everybody, if it works for you then great. I think that men need to be roughened up sometimes too. lOl. It is unfair to you though but I don't think you should call it quits yet. You should observe and see what you think is the next right move for you after awhile if you see that his attitude is changing towards you too much. YOU should decide because it's only you who can know what you do and don't like. And how you want to be treated.
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