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writes:my boyfriend of a year just dumped me. he has another girlfriend, but i find it hard to let go. i still call text and do everything i know i'm not suppose to, problem is i love him and all this is a shock to me. i hardly go out i dont have a of friends. There's no one to discuss this with which makes it so hard. How do i get over him?
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reader, repeatoffender  +, writes (18 November 2008):
It is hard to move on when someone has hurt and betrayed you, we can all understand that. Maintaining the connection with him only gives him more power over you. Take that away from him, he doesnt deserve it. Love yourself first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2008): Distract yourself. Do something that you never done before, may be take some classes, like yoga or bellydance. But noway keep on texting him or contacting. Ask yourself what are you trying to accomplish by doing all that. You only frustrate yourself more and more everytime you do it.The sooner you stop the sooner the end of your suffering will come. Every week it will be easier and easier. Believe me, we all've been there. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2008): I understand you must be going through a lot especially if he dumped you.... but first of all the reason you can't get over him is because you still keep contact, that makes it seem like nothing ever ended, when i used to talk to one of my ex's i felt like it never ended cause we continue to keep contact even after he dump me a day later he got a girl [top it all off he got that girl pregnant too] once i stop talking to him and open myself up to let other "people" in my life i forgot about him, but don't get it twisted of course your not gonna get over him in a week or two it took me a while but yet i got over him, you should just explore other people and stop talking to him for you won't get attach to old feelingsAlso to keep your mind off him start to go out to clubs or something, or do yoga to relax your mind or something you enjoy doing
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reader, Lost_Soul85  +, writes (18 November 2008):
Hmmmmmm. I found myself in a similar situation a couple of months ago. That initial change is tough, not just because of the heartbreak but also through the massive change in routine. Its hard to break the habit of texting and calling someone when its something you've done everyday. I found the best way to remedy this was to box up everything that reminded me of my ex (well I went for the slightly more dramatic 'burn everything' option). Just put anything that encourages you to dwell on them out of sight and then delete their number. Second thing is getting out there! I didn't have a great deal of friends in my immediate locale when me and my ex split but the three close friends I did have, well they became my rocks. Make an effort to go out and meet new people. Remember your family is there for you to! Ring or go see your mum and have a good cry. Thats what mums are there for!!!
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reader, hate_addicted +, writes (18 November 2008):
Go out! Have fun, make friends! Let me say that if you stay in your house and dont socialize, you will just be by yourself with nothing but your thoughts. Keep yourself busy, do things you have been wanting to do for a while but never got around to. Most importantly, you have to stop calling and texting him. That wont solve anything. You are only hurting yourself right now.
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