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writes:When i was like 13-15 or 16 guys used to fancy me, but now i am 17 i don't think they do?and i have realised guys kinda hate me. does that mean i won't be in a relationship and what am i doing wrong and i'm scared? numerology say i am attractive woman but i haven't seen proof Reply to this Question
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reader, uncle Frank  +, writes (17 July 2009):
 Dear OLDER at 17.Have you changed physically since guys 'liked' you?Have you gone fatter or skinny or changed the clothes you wear?What do you think of me who is 75 and still like to admire young girls? Am I old inside or outside?We need a pointer before we can answer you meaningfully.Think about your education and leave the boys for when you are graduated and with a job. It will be safer then: you will be wiser, older, with a car possibly, etc...u. Frank
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (17 July 2009):
 All guys have different taste in girls, therefore you cannot say that all guys dont fancy you because that is not true. Some guys wont fancy you because you are not their type, but on the other hand some guys will fancy you because you are the sort of girl they would normally go for.
You are only 17, try not to worry about this too much. You are just feeling a bit insecure about yourself and that is normal, your self-esteem takes a big hit during your teen years so just accept that it is natural.
You need to love yourself first before anyone else will be attracted to you, so make sure you are happy with the way you look on the outside and make sure you are happy with yourself as a person. If you are not happy with anything, then change it for the better. Make sure you have some goals to achieve in the future and start working towards them, you will find that men are more attracted to a confident woman who knows what she wants and has the ambition to go get it!
I can assure you guys dont hate you, people dont hate each randomly! Hate is a very strong word, and is only used for someone that has done a terrible thing to another person. Unless you have done terrible things to every guy out there then I can guarantee that they dont hate you!
And I can promise you that you are not doing anything wrong, as long as you are being yourself and you are happy in your life then you are perfect as you are. I am a strong believer that you have to be happy being alone before you can find a relationship, and that you have to stop looking for a guy before one will come to you!
Just remember that you are only 17 and have your whole life ahead of you to meet someone and have a relationship, it will happen when the time is right I promise. It will happen when you are not even looking for a relationship, it will be the last thing on your mind and then all of a sudden someone will come into your life!
I'm not sure what this numerology thing is but anything with "ology" on the end of it that involves the internet and some kind of test is complete rubbish! Stop all that business, it wont help you feel better about yourself or find a man. Confidence comes from within, so you need to believe deep down that you are attractive, not just because some online test says so. Ask yourself, "Am I happy with myself?" Write a list of all the good things about you, write down the things you would like to change/make better too. Start working on yourself, making yourself feel better. Only you can be happy in your own skin, some online test cant tell you how to be happy or how to make yourself feel better.
So stop worrying so much about guys, have a positive attitude towards life and guys (otherwise you will put them off with all this negativity!) and start loving yourself for who you are. You are a good person, with lots of great qualities I'm sure. Oneday you will meet the right guy who sees all those great things, but until you do just get out there and enjoy life. Good things come to those who wait!
I hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2009): You're only 17 years old. What were you doing that guys used to like you so much? If you were young && flirty, maybe you should try it again. Obviously in a classy way. Always avoid looking like a slut cause thats a turnoff for everyone
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (17 July 2009):
 I used to think that everybody like me and that everything was perfect but that mindset slowly changed when I reached a certain point in my life. That point is called "Teen", that's when self-esteem comes into the picture.
What I find is that the more I like myself, the more people like me. In my situation, it wasn't a body problem, it was a thinking problem.
People like to see smiles. If you think that people hate you, you'll act in a way that people will hate you. If you think that people like you, you will act in a way that people will like you.
It's harder to smile at someone that you think doesn't like you than it is to someone you think likes you right?
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