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writes: hey, Me and my boyfriend split up, yet we maintained 'everything' you get in a relationship. This has been kinda painful. He hints that he likes me but I dont know if we would ever get back together. The person who I have been confiding in recently turned round and said they really liked me, and I like them a bit too. So do I wait for my old boyfriend or take a chance with a new one?
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reader, Peasle  +, writes (2 August 2005):
At the moment, your ex is having his cake and eating it. He has fun times with you - but is free to do as he pleases.
You could lay your cards on the table and ask your ex exactly what is going on. Don't be too surprised if he's vague, and 'doesn't know what he wants' or 'really likes you but isn't sure right now'. In which case, definitely move on - or the situation will slowly drive you crazy.
If he wants to get back together, don't forget you broke up for a reason - so think carefully before jumping in.
Regarding the new guy - a little distraction is good. Maybe spending time with him will make you realise that you were stuck in a comfortable rut with your ex - and just needed something (someone) to get you out of it and move on. If, however, you think it's just a rebound thing, make sure he knows you are not looking for anything serious.
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reader, brokenarrow +, writes (1 August 2005):
I say get out!! He has everything he wants without having a commitment to you so why would he get back in to a relationship? I say move on and maybe hang out a bit with your new friend? Let him know that you are not ready to jump in to another relationship, but it may be some light relief for you and you may look back and wonder why you wasted time on your ex? Have fun and put your needs on the top of your 'important things' list. Take care and good luck :)
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