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writes:I don't know how I feel about my ex lately. I thought I loved him but now I'm not sure because if I want to get over him how could I love him? How can he say he cares so much about me and how I complete him but his actions don't match his words? I know it's over...I just don't know how I feel anymore. I went on a date with someone last night and he was attractive, rich, kind everything a girl wants but he just wasn't my ex. I'm glad to know that there is still hope for me to find someone but deep down inside I still want to be with my ex. We havent spoken in a little over a month...ugh..I guess I'm just trying to see if anyone has felt like me. I'm sick of being sad over my ex, I'm sick of thinking about him all the time and I've gotten better at managing my feelings, but how can I kill this glimmer of hope so I can move on for good?
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reader, keikoBell  +, writes (21 June 2010):
 Right, first of all it's perfectly healthy to feel the way you do, & it's totally natural to have feelings for an ex- You know each other well & feel relaxed in eachothers company. But the truth is It can be hard to get over someone, & it can take a long time. If you've been with someone for a while you begin to get used to each others company, & the old saying "there's pleanty more fish in sea" just doesnt help. But even though everything may seem a mess now, it will always work out for the better. If you want to get over him you will need to take your mind of the endless trails of thought that get your self in. You know, the ones where you go over every little detail, & everything seems to remind you of him. You need your freinds around you, & maybe start up a new hobby, this will help distract you so you can get on with your life. & if you really want to move on then think of all the reasons that you spit up, & all the things you dislike about him. this will help you realise that he's actually not that great & that you can do much better. But before you do any of this its important to make a solid decision. But remember - always make the decision yourself, your friends might say what they think is best for you but it's your decision to make, not theirs. You just give it a few months & you'll be glad that everything has worked out the way it has. & from The wise words of maralyn monroe - "I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they're right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together." Good Luck
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