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writes:Ive been talking too this guy for about 2 years and we have been dating and seeing each other regularly for about 8 months. I have a 2 year old daughter, who he has never meet and really wants too but im scared as im not sure kids is what he really wants and all his friends have left thier girlfriends who have kids and i dont want my daughter to get too attached for him too leave. Im 19 hes 31. I do love him but want my daughter to be safe and not confused. Some advice would be great. Thanks x Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (22 September 2010):
 I would also suggest, if you do have them meet, have it be in a neutral space. Go to the park or the zoo or something, so that the meeting can be casual and your daughter will be busy having a fun time rather than stuck at home meeting a stranger. I have a feeling that will make the experience more fun for your daughter and easier on your boyfriend (it's easier coming up with material to entertain a 2 year old at an aquarium than at a dinner table).
Gradually introduce your daughter to him, so that she doesn't get overly attached too quickly. But, I wouldn't worry about your boyfriend leaving you over your child - if he wasn't crazy about kids, he would have made that clear within the last 2 years you've been talking.
Good luck!
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reader, youngmum89  +, writes (22 September 2010):
 i have a son whose 5 yrs old, i'm with my bf a year now i was apprehensive about him meeting my son at first but after they did meet it was great my son loves him gets on great wit him, he also has a son of his own but only gets to see him 2 maybe 3 times a wk, i have dated men who don't have any children but i found it way easier with my new bf he's great he knows wat its like to have a son so we have much more to talk about.
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reader, Kenj +, writes (22 September 2010):
 Do you trust this guy? If you do then you could maybe meet him with your daughter for a meal.
If he loves you for who you are then he will accept your daughter too.
Sure not every guy wants an instant family but I am sure he would not be with you now if it really bothered him and he certaily would not want to meet her.
Just dont leave him alone with your daughter until your fully sure everything is ok.
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