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writes:I've been with my girlfriend for about 6 months now and she's a virgin, age 22. We try to have sex, but she's really sensitive "down there," much more so than any of my previous girlfriends. Even when she's really wet I can't get more than 1 finger in, which already causes her discomfort. When we've tried to actually have intercourse, using lots of lube, I simply won't fit--and I'm only about average size (from what they say on the internet). I've had plenty of partners before, although never a virgin, so I don't think I'm doing anything wrong. She seems relaxed when we go at it and after I give her an orgasm she's plenty wet.I'm trying to take it slow, but am worried that there might be something wrong. Any thoughts?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the great advice, all. I actually forgot to mention that she also had zero experience with sex before me (either via masturbation or otherwise). I bought her a vibrator a few weeks ago in the hopes that it would help her relax get used to the feeling and she's been "practicing," though she still can't get more than 1 finger in herself. So, I guess I will just have to enjoy the other activities for a while...slow and steady wins the race! If I have any epiphanies, I will be sure to share with you.
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reader, mrvhappy  +, writes (22 September 2010):
Hi,
Instead of trying to finger her why dont you massage her down there and all over her body?
From what you say, it sounds like she's a bit tense/nervous so of course she will be "very tight"
Try and get her relaxed..soft lights, romantic music...maybe even try giving her oral, but be very careful and try and show her some tenderness. Maybe you could try to gently touch her vulvar and stroke it very lightly..take yr time remember its a marathon not a sprint :). The more frustrated that you get the worst it will be for both of you.
For her 1st time, you could ask her to get on top so that she can control the level of penetration/pain.
I hope that this helps and good luck..you sound like a lucky chap
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reader, xX_Kitty_Xx +, writes (22 September 2010):
Maybe get her to masterbate a bit. Try and get her used to being touched down there. Try buying her a vibrator which she can use to practice herself. As chigirl said dont force her open as this will cause great discomfort and pain :/ Hope this helps...
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (22 September 2010):
 Nothing wrong other than you are dealing with a tight virgin. Is she clamming up? Is she nervous? Could getting her drunk be the solution? Of course not fooling her into getting drunk, but she is old enough to have some drinks. It'll relax her.
Build it up. Make her comfortable with one finger first. She could also buy a small vibrator and practice with it on her own. You can still enjoy sex without intercourse, so take the intercourse as it comes. How about anal?
Im suspecting she instinctively tightens up when you touch her down there. It can be quite natural. But it will cause her great discomfort. The best thing to do is not to force her open, but practice making her relaxed. One finger at a time.
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