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Not feeling it with my husband any more; being with my lover makes me feel better

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Question - (5 June 2010) 4 Answers - (Newest, 14 June 2010)
A female United States age , anonymous writes:

I have been having an affair with a married man .. Im married also. I have been married for 30 years and just dont feel it anymore... This man is 10 years younger then me and says there is no chemistry with him and his wife. We both agree that we have a lot to lose but need whats missing in our marriage. We meet usually twice a week for lunch and sex. It is very exciting for me. He is a great lover and always cant wait for the next time we meet. He feels the same way. I have been told that I am a great lover too. I know its wrong but have been confused with my feelings about my husband for some time and now being with my lover this makes me feel better... What should I do?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010):

Work things out with your husband leave your lover you are a ready lucky women too have a husband next to you forso many years many would want too be in your shoes as a wife im with a married man I wish too find a guy who would share many years with me as my husband dont throw your marriage too the trash communicate with your husbandabout your needs and work things out!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2010):

Why cheat and ask him to cheat.

you should divorce your DH and he should D to his wife and then do what ever you want.

Obviously things can not go the way they are. today or tomorrow his wife are your hubby or kids at any family will find it out and then so many lives will be changed for ever.

Then you will post another problem that i burnt every thing i had and no nothing is with me how to get my family back? my kids back? ny husband back? or my lover back? and so on and then my response will be that you can not escape your KARMAs so suffering will be there for life long.

So my advice is that what ever SIN ( BAD KARMA ) that you have added to your bucket, just stop now on.. THere will be some problems ( like first signal is that you posted the problem here ) but may be still you can get some better chunk of peace and happiness from GOD in your life.

Else you will have much worse situations to handle.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2010):

to me it sound like a bitch on heat scenario.

why not divorce the husband. let the lover divorce his wife. and then see whether this sex iduring lunch times will continue. remember the man is 10 years younger than you. in a few years you will be old perhaps haggard and wrinkly, do you think your married stud will still want you then. you will be past your prime. just be realisitc about your affair but there is no doubt. you need to divorce your husband so that he too can hook up with a woman some 10 years younger than him and allow him to also have amazing sex. after all what is good for the goose is even better for the gander and vice versa.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (5 June 2010):

Ah, another married man question. What he's missing is the sex. He knows you're unhappy, so he's using you. And you're allowing it, like all mistresses do. If you're unhappy in your marriage, then stop the affair now and focus on your marriage. Either get counselling for your marriage, or end it. An affair never has been the answer, and it never will be. It's a known fact that mistresses always come out worse. He's just using you, and you're not dealing with the problem. And when it does come out, you'll be the one who comes off the worst.

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