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writes:Okay, well I am 17 (yeah kind of young, I know right...) and I am in a long-distance relationship. He lives in a place all the way across my country. I really want to be with him but it's hard. We have been together for 2 years. We are both too clingy for our own good, so we never spend time apart except school. We talk on the phone 24/7 so now it's kind of silent between us because we don't have much to talk about anymore. I tried telling him we don't talk that much and he got so mad at me. It's just I [think i] love him so much and all but it's hard to let him go and it's hard to stay with him. I want to be with him but I don't. He's sweet and all it's just I get frustrated with him way too much and he doesn't want me to spend time away to have something to talk about. We are both majorly jealous people so we can't really talk to the opposite sex. Anything I try to tell him he gets mad or upset. I want to go to a friend's house and he gets upset with me. I told him I am not 100% happy in our relationship and he started to try and leave me and never talk to me again. I don't know what to do. What should I do? should I be with him or not?
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reader, Ldu  +, writes (31 January 2011):
Also in a long distance rElationship ( almost 2yrs ). I suggest you don't talk 24/7 an hour is plenty of time to talk over the phone, also I find it better to call before I head to sleep, that way you both can recap on you day as a started and during the day you can think of any subject to talk about, once me and my gf spend an hour talking about old cartoon shows , talk about anything the weirder the better sometime lol. As for the jealousy , you both need to have trust, without trust especially in a LDR it will always fail.
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reader, Imoginv  +, writes (31 January 2011):
Just find a mate that you can confide in and have a laugh with. Then you can chat with him about something, but if he gets jealous easy don't find a boy mate.
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reader, just a female  +, writes (31 January 2011):
 hi there, My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship, we have been for 2 years so far so I know what your talking about. It's hard and sometimes you feel yourself wondering "whats the point", you just have to find the love and strength within yourself to think of the positives, if you want to carry on. My boy and I used to talk on the phone a lot as well, the problem with that is, as you say, you run out of subjects. I think the best way to solve that is set days when you talk and think up subjects before you call. You say you are both jealous people, I think in a long distance relationship the most important thing is trust in your partner, if you dont have that it wont work. I think you need to have a chat with your boy and say that you love him and would never, never cheat on him because you love him. You also need to loosen up and trust that he would not cheat on you if he loves you. Long distance relationships do work if your dedicated enough to them. You also have to see each other sometimes as well(but not too much) otherwise you get to distant. Maybe try texting your boyfriend instead of talking all the time?hope this has helped you some.xxx
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