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writes:Is it juat me or do other women never get a birthday present or a christmas present. Over the years it has always been me giving and giving. Lately I notice I give but do not get anything in return particularly from my children who are 17 and 15.My birthday went by and one card from one out of three. As a working mother who owns her own house and recently took the younger ones on holiday to the Caribben, is that all I am worth?I have shed a tear!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your responses. I get tried of dropping hints but will continue to try.
My 15 year old new it was not birthday and not even a verbal happy b'day. So I have already planned his day - nothing.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (12 October 2009):
 I agree with what the other aunts and uncles have said. I think your kids are just being a bit self absorbed (it's a teen thing) Your their mother and you can take a few cheeky liberties. Drop a few hints and list a couple of things that you would like. If the kids don't have much money they could always do something nice for you, like cook you a nice meal or breakfast in bed and run you a bubble bath...or even be your housemaids for the day :-)
It seriously won't hurt them to be nudged into action and will teach them something about giving and receiving.
I am a mum too and believe me I drop massive hints. My girls age 17 and 20 roll their eyes and laugh at me but I always recieve something nice. My best present at Christmas was a mug printed on with pictures of them from babies growing into teens. The cost was about £10, not expensive but totally priceless!!!
Good luck
Aunty Em xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2009): My parents are the worst. My brother, sister and myself always ask them what they would like and they always say "nothing". I bet your kids would love to get you something, just point it out when your out with them and enjoy christmas.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2009): This post reminds me that i need to make sure i get my mom something for her birthday.I know that she loves me and she works hard and i figure that she doesn't need anything because she will get anything she wants on her own.Your kids might feel this way. That you are superwoman and superwoman doesn't care for simple gifts. Us children sometimes forget that are moms are human too.They might also wonder if they have enough money to get you something you would really like. I think you should drop hints that you love getting gifts from them because they help you to feel loved. Or do like my mom and just say "gee ole mom's birthday is coming up and i sure would love something from my loving children that i raised all by myself" LOL she was really obvious that she wanted a gift.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2009): Kids now days are very self centered, and most teenagers are just self absorbed to begin with it is part of being adolescent and now days adolescence is prolonged!
So, you are going to have to bring up your birthday and Christmas ahead of time and maybe plan a dinner out with them ahead of time, this way they will remember to do something with you.
Don't feel badly, it isn't just your kids or you, it is a growing problem...it is really selfish of them is all, your job is to give to them and they don't have any form or personal responsibility, not yet anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2009): Take them "window shopping" a couple of weeks before christmas or birthday.
when you see something you like give off hints by saying "wow look at this,I love this,you know my birthday is coming up soon".
My mother does that to me all the time and its great because it makes it easier when getting her a gift.
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