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writes:okay, i find this really embarrassing, but i do think its time i asked at least somebody about this!i'm eighteen years old and i get no pleasure from intercourse. i mean, i can feel him inside of me, but other than that, nothing. i get pleasure from oral, just not intercourse. i've tried getting warmed up, he's gone down on me, but still nothing when it comes to the actual thing.is something wrong? :/ Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2011): thank you guys so much! i feel a lot more reassured now!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2011): No, nothing wrong with you, just remember the first rule of lovemaking...she comes first. Make sure your bf knows that rule and both of you work on obeying that.
Intercourse is how babies are made (that and with IVF test tubes), but lovemaking is how you treat the other person and how you make them feel good both in bed and out of bed.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (25 October 2011):
 nothing is wrong.
at 18 I felt nothing from intercourse either. I could NOT get what the big deal was about it... (other than how I made my babies with my then husband)
at 35 it started getting a bit more interesting and now at 51 (I know scandalous old lady having sex here).. it's GREAT... in fact, while I have a different type of orgasm from mannual or oral stimulation than I do from penetration I finally have some sort of pleasure response from intercourse because my partner (READ THIS GUYS) is not so large as to totally stretch me out and make it almost uncomfortable... (in this case less is more)
I'm sorry but I think I'm like a lot of women... penetration is not necessary for lovemaking...
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (25 October 2011):
 Nothing wrong. It may be that you have some resistance to let yourself go, or that you haven't found yet the best penetration angle / speed for you, and this may change in time. Or not. There are tons of women who never orgasm through intercourse only.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (25 October 2011):
 No., nothing is wrong. The vast majority of women can't orgasm from intercourse (75%) and I'd imagine a good portion of women barely feel anything. We don't have many nerve endings inside our vaginas; a great thing for childbirth not so great for a sex life.
There are some things you can do to make it feel better though. Positions like you on top, doggie, and spooning allow easy access for your hands, so add those in. You can also buy toys to use during (vibrators that fit around the base of his penis for instance).
In the end though, intercourse isn't the only correct way to be having sex. So don't sacrifice your own pleasure/orgasm because you think oral sex/digital stimulation should be foreplay or extra to the "main event." Foreplay is a total misnomer since that's how the majority of women orgasm. Make sure you're spending as much time on you as on him.
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