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writes: Do I have to explain everything to my girlfriend with whom I have been for last two years? I am a sports teacher here and who gets free from work around 2pm. In the evening,on the beach, I jog for three miles and at the end go for sprint when 100 Meters left . Once I am done, then I stand there for 30 minutes to see the sunset. I have been into this habit since I was 14 and I don't know either why I love doing this. How should I explain to her that why I have been doing this? I think she is not supposed to know everything I do ? I would appreciate if you guys could help me on this. Thank you! Reply to this Question
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reader, person12345  +, writes (25 October 2011):
 To be honest it's a little odd that you haven't told her about a daily habit for two whole years. No you don't have to tell her everything, but it is a little odd that she had no idea about something that took up so much time/was so important to you. Have you been lying to her about where you've been? If so, she has every right ro be upset.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2011): Since you've been with your gf for a couple years, I'm sure she knows you go jogging. I think if it were an issue, it would have come up in the last 2 years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2011): A lot of people exercise and usually people don't ask why someone exercises. I don't see anyone having a problem with the fact you go jogging or even caring much about it. If you act secretive about an otherwise ordinary event, like jogging or going to the grocery store, you will be creating drama and you will be soliciting attention over it.
If you just tell her you exercise after work, it's just stating a fact and she'll most likely assume you exercise for the reason most people due, which you do. Just like you go to the grocery store for the same reason most people do!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (25 October 2011):
 Is she not happy about your alone time? What is the concern? You work hard, you get off at a nice hour and then you go for a run and have some medatative down time.
Sounds LOVELY.... for ME it would be perfect to do since my BF is not available normally from 2-6 or so... he's still at work... is your GF available and wanting your time then?
if so you need to explain to her why you need this down time this is ME time and everyone needs it to be a well rounded person.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (25 October 2011):
 You don't need to explain WHY you do what you do, just say you enjoy doing it.
No, she doesn't need to know everything you do, but unless you have a reason to not tell her you will sound suspicious when you try to sneak around and hide things. Not sharing everything does not give you a right to lie about things or be sneaky. If she wants to know what it is you do then just tell her, it's not a big secret.
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reader, KittieS  +, writes (25 October 2011):
 Is the problem that your concerned your girlfriend will think differently of you because you enjoy watching the sunset?
Everyone relaxes/unwinds in different ways, I like absolute peace and quiet, a nice glass of wine or cup of tea in a certain cup my OH likes loud music - if that's the thing that centres you and makes you a balanced person she should appreciate it - maybe take her once in a while, I think she would find it romantic!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2011): I am the same guy who has posted the above question and I am really sorry that I didn't explain it properly which makes it confusing for you guys to understand. Ok, three days, my girlfriend came to know about my this hobby of sunsetting through her female friend who might have seen me doing this on the beach and informed my girlfriend. My GF got upset saying that why I didn't tell her about this hobby of mine before...so I am wondering now that I am not supposed to tell her about every dam thing I love , right? hopefully this would be published quickly to make it easier for you guys to help me on this.Thanks
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (25 October 2011):
 I don't understand either what's exactly the problem, I can't think that your girlfriend has got something against sunsets ?
Unless the problems is that you get off work at 2 p.m. and you are only available after sunset, which is around 6 p.m. now and much later in summer, - in other words if your sport/ sunset watching routine takes a whole lot of free time that she feels you could share with her ?
In this case, well, maybe she has a point, when we are in a couple we have to work out compromises between our habits and pleasures, and our partner's needs. So maybe you could skip your sunset watching routine a few days a week. Or invite your gf to join you in watching the sunset.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (25 October 2011):
I'm afraid I don't really understand what your issue is. Is she upset that you want to watch the sunset on the beach? If so I don't really see how you watching the sun set has any impact on her.
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