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writes:My first relationship just ended...and it went for two years so naturally I'm a bit upset right now. She never really wanted anything physical so we never madeout once and so I've never kissed a girl...i thought i was doing the right thing by waiting but it bought me to tears many times....well now, at least it's out of the way...Now, although I really want to find another person soon, my ego has kind of been damaged quite a lot....i kind of feel like i did everything wrong and I don't know if i can find another person on the same wavelength...One of the biggest reason's why I'm not entirely sure is that I have a condition called Asperger's Syndrome. Nobody realizes that I have it anymore, although it becomes my evident in stressful situations...i dont know how i'm going to cope with this...I'm kinda really lonely....no one as ever really touched me in a physical loving way before, and it's something that I really want to experience....what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, The Pokemon Trainer  +, writes (25 November 2009):
 You want to experience a woman's touch as soon as possible, then I would suggest getting a prostitute. You live in Australia, where prostitution in one form or another is legal. I don't know where you live, and the laws depend on what territory you are in.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prostitution_in_Australia
Really though, I don't think it's really physical intamacy that you desire. I hear guys say all the time that they just want to get laid, or this or that, but I don't think it's true. Really, they just want be close to and accepted by someone. And I think that applies to you, my friend.
I really had trouble believing that your relationship with this girl was a romantic one, given that you feel starved of physical touch. Your "girlfriend" left you both physically and emotionally neglected. You should never have to wait very long to become physical in one way or another.
I can tell by what you've written here that you need a lot of work on your inner game. You have a lot of self-limiting beliefs that need to be delt with. I used to be like you, until I looked read some inspirational material by Zan Perrion. That stuff will change you and liberate you. Google Zan Perrion and also Seductive Reasoning by Johnny Soporno. You'll be a new man after you watch their stuff. Look at the stuff they offer and then do some torrent searches for the items that appeal to you. Most of Johnny's stuff is free.
Best of luck, my friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2009): Hello, I'm sorry that you are feeling like you did something wrong. I'm sure you didn't she might not have been the kind of a girl who is physical. I don't know exactly but maybe something happened to her or she just views that physical touch in a negative way. Either way there is nothing you can do about the past you just have to accept it and move on.
I agree that you shouldn't just rush into finding another girl. You should go out and enjoy being single and enjoy life, get involved in activities and when the time is right the right girl will come along. Focus on yourself right now, go out with friends and just have fun.
As for the Asperger's Syndrome it is actually a lot more common than people think. I have a friend with it and I've actually worked with a lot of people who have it through a volunteer counseling job I had. It can be a challenge but with the right knowledge it shouldn't hinder your life. Try to find a support group in your area or even a counselor or psychologist to talk to. And just be up front with people that you have it. It's nothing to be ashamed of or hide from people. If they are mature, caring people it won't matter to them anyway, they'll accept you for who you are. Just educate people in your life about it and how it affect you, I know sometimes it can be frustrating to feel like your getting upset and lashing out for no reason, just explain to them that you can't always control it and if they don't accept that then they don't deserve to be in your life.
You are still very young and I can guarantee that soon enough you will get that physical attention you want, don't rush it though just enjoy life and it will come along when the time is right.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 November 2009):
You need to be patient. The worst thing to do is go out and find a girl just to kiss. There will be a woman out there for you. Instead, focus on yourself. Make sure you're meeting people, going out and focusing on work and hobbies. You're more likely to meet her that way. Just be patient and you'll find her.
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