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writes: I have been married for 12 years and have 3 kids aged 4, 8 and 11. My husband has been acting so strange lately. He has been ignoring/avoiding me especially and ties not to have face to face with or eye contact with me. This 3 months is so obvious that he doesn't even want to talk to me. I have asked him on 3 occassion on why he behaved this way. Why he has been avoiding me and asked him whether there is third party in our marriage, he denied all since then he doesn't wants to come close to me, even though we are still sleeping in the same room but he makes sure that I'm already fast asleep, then he will go up to our room say 2 - 3am in the morning. He doesn't care about my feelings any more. He's in and out from the house as and when he likes. I feel that I don't have a home anymore and its more like a house now. I can't take this anymore and I want to break-up since he doesn't love me anymore. I'm still holding back because I don't know what to do. Please I need advice. Reply to this Question
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (14 April 2005):
 You really do not deserve to be treated like this. You have to think about number one and thats YOU!You need to be strong and tell him that you are not putting up with it. And unless he tells you what is wrong then tell him to pack his bags and leave. This will either shock him to reality,of what he stands to lose, or actually give him a push to do something that he isnt man enough to do. It does sound as though there is someone else, but thats not always why men behave oddly. He could have pressures from elsewhere, and he feels that he cant tell you. The not being able to look at you, is either guilt or shame. You need to establish what it is that is going on, and by standing your ground and teling him to leave may force the issue. At least knowing what is wrong you can maybe deal with it or even help him, If he relents and decides to go, then you will have to accept it, after all he is making your life a misery with things as they are. Do whats best for you and you children. Give him one last shot at telling you whats up, and if he doesnt, show him the door. The longer this goes on the harder it will be for you. and the more unhappy you will become. Please do something about it soon honey.take carex x
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reader, manda +, writes (14 April 2005):
You need to get it out of him. This is too much of a strain in your life. Why don't you approach it as the caring wife? Say that you think he is in need of a holiday as he seems not himself. Tell him that, if he would like to, you can get the kids looked after and you could go away together or you would also understand if he would like to go on his own. You just want him to be happy and relaxed again. Tell him you stick by him, and applogise for suggesting he was having an affair but if you know nothing you will assume everything. You never know what is the problem is until he tells you. Don't jump to conclusions. You also may be right about the third person but that is what we are most paranoid about happening. It may not be true. I hope all turns out o.k x
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