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writes:I met a guy in one of my PE classes during the fall term, and unintentionally developed a crush on him on the last day of the class. Over the winter break, I added him on fb, and he surprisingly accepted. I messaged him asking if he wanted to petition for the PE class we took fall (it's not being offered this term) and he replied immediately saying he would take the class if it's offered. Unfortunately, I didn't get enough people interested, so the class didnt happen. Thus, this term, I dont have any classes with him. I saw him twice this term, but he didn't see me, so I didn't get to talk to him. The PE class is being offered next term, and I'd like to know if he's planning on taking it. But, since i havent seen him very much on campus, I think the best way to ask him is over fb. I don't know if he'll think it's odd/creepy that I would ask him again. The last thing i want to do is weird him out. I messaged him last time a week after the class ended, but since then, it's been about 3 months with no contact. Will he get creeped out if I asked him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2015): I think you really need to know if the guy is interested in you the same way you seem interested in him. You're messaging about PE class and going about things in a roundabout way. That might be taken as a little creepy.
Do you know for sure if he's into guys; or is this just a random crush, and you don't really care? Stop using classes as a reason to contact the guy, just stop him next time you see him and talk to him. I think you should find-out if you're pestering a guy who's totally hetero, and just buzzing around with no hope of anything coming of it.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 March 2015):
 I don't think he will be creeped out. 2 messages in 3 months does not exactly qualify as st?alking. And he if accepted you as FB friend, he is willing / prepared to receive communications from you. Anyway you can always say, hey I do not know if you are aware that now they are actually offering that class you wanted to take, I thought I'd tell you in case you weren't. It's a polite gesture , not a creepy one.
On the other hand, though, I don't see WHY you would contact him about the PE class again- unless you have decided that you are only taking the class IF he joins it
too ?? Otherwise, -in case you are signing up regardless-, if he's there too, good, added bonus,... if he is not, too bad but so what, you are taking the class anyway.
Yeah I get it, the class is an excuse, an ice breaker to talk to him- but, alas, it did not work wonders last time. You asked him something, he answered politely- and he left it at that . I don't feel that this time would be any different, so ... it's up to you but probably might as well wait and see when the class starts if he is in it, and take it from there.
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