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writes: I'm 22 years old. I've always had very small A cup boobs and also a very small and square butt (very much genetic). It makes me so insecure because I know from experience that a lot of men like bigger boobs and a nice big and round butt, or at least one or the other, I have neither. I honestly don't feel like a woman at all. I feel more like I have a boy's body. My dating life is pretty much non existent. I'm too embarrassed to have sex. I'm very much depressed over it. I just wish I had a body I was happy with. I've dealt with this all of my life and it's just tiring now. What should I do?
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reader, LJCX  +, writes (7 March 2015):
 I have big boobs and honestly I wish I had small ones like you do. Not all men prefer big boobs, if you go on porn sites there are plenty of videos of women with small breasts. Men like them, honestly! You wont have to worry about them sagging when your older anyway and they are more likely to stay perky. I don't really love my body but when I feel a bit self conscious I wear nice underwear, that always helps :)Like one poster said you can go to the gym to try get the figure you want, squats are great!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2015): I have the opposite problem , big bust and hips . It seems to me that every man wants exactly what you are and big boobs are not at all desirable the truth is men always want the unattainable . If you were like me , your man would dream of a woman with about like yours and vice versa Porn has trained men to be able to click a mouse and masterbate to whatever they please and orgasms are a huge reinforcer . The only way women can be happy with their bodies is to stop worrying about what men want. Men will never understand how their objectification of women and porn is damaging women nor will they care. It's all about them. Their satisfaction, their 'right' to view what they want, their orgasm.Women as people with emotions means nothing to them and the sooner you understabd that and start making this about your happiness the better .It's not harsh or negative. It's reality. The most important thing as other writers have mentioned is to start feeling good about you . Stop caring what're hold as the ideel. What does it matter , you will nevereet if and if you somhow managed to uoh would get older and each day that went by you would be further fromThe ideal of young and firm anyway . Just living life as a woman or aging means it's impossible go meet what men most desire a woman toLook like physically according to the images promoted by their favourite porn stars Are you prepared not to live a life and put all your energy I tpFeeling bad for sale of people who don't ever treat the other half of the world as human ??????
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2015): I have the opposite problem , big bust and hips . It seems to me that every man wants exactly what you are and big boobs are not at all desirable the truth is men always want the unattainable . If you were like me , your man would dream of a woman with about like yours and vice versa Porn has trained men to be able to click a mouse and masterbate to whatever they please and orgasms are a huge reinforcer . The only way women can be happy with their bodies is to stop worrying about what men want. Men will never understand how their objectification of women and porn is damaging women nor will they care. It's all about them. Their satisfaction, their 'right' to view what they want, their orgasm.Women as people with emotions means nothing to them and the sooner you understabd that and start making this about your happiness the better .It's not harsh or negative. It's reality. The most important thing as other writers have mentioned is to start feeling good about you . Stop caring what're hold as the ideel. What does it matter , you will nevereet if and if you somhow managed to uoh would get older and each day that went by you would be further fromThe ideal of young and firm anyway . Just living life as a woman or aging means it's impossible go meet what men most desire a woman toLook like physically according to the images promoted by their favourite porn stars Are you prepared not to live a life and put all your energy I tpFeeling bad for sale of people who don't ever treat the other half of the world as human ??????
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2015): My husband actually prefers smaller boobs and butts, but "unfortunatelly for him I have quite the opposite. Guess what, though I am not his "dream woman" , he managed to live with me for more than 20 years and succesfully made me a couple of kids:). You have a very bad body image. And you need help if it went that far as for you not to have sex or date at your young age. This is the ony body you will ever have, so how are you going to continue if your confidence in that regard is below zero? I was always very thin. When I got married I was a 115lb. Now many years later I am at almost 145. I still have a nice figure but of course I want to drop these 10 lb, but it's not just happening. I weighted myself regularly until the point when I understood that this particular action makes me very depressed. My mood started to depend on it, and the next thing I did is got rid of my scale. I eat healthy, I excersize, there is not much else I can do. What's the point of jumping on a scale every day to just make myself upset. From now and then I weigh myself in a grocery store and see that im the exact the same weight as I was 10 years ago. The same thing with you, there is not much you can change about your small boobs unless you get plastic surgery. So what are you going to do the rest of your life, just not have a boyfriend or a husband ever?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2015): Apart for your boobs, everything else on your body can change its shape with some effort in the gym. As for sex appeal in a girl, it's a lot about how she carries herself also. The only thing about your appearance that I know is what you said: small boobs, square butt... but that isn't enough to get a sense on your sex appeal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2015): There are also men out there that value a woman for more than how she looks. We are not existing solely for the approval of the male species, you are an individual, beautiful human being. Focus away from your body, who cares - it's going to change and age and all sorts so just accept that right now, it is how it is. If you focus too much on your body being right for other people then you're never going to be happy, you'll always be thinking you need to change because so-and-so prefers this, but some people prefer that...Be interesting, be a person who can hold a conversation and has opinions and hobbies and things to talk about. That is what will last, one day we all age and we won't have the looks of our youth and there will be new, youthful people. Your personality will be the thing that remains and should be what you invest your time in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2015): I'm not discounting your experience, But I'm wondering what kind of experiences you've had to conclude that men don't like women with small breasts and a small butt. I'm sure you'll get multiple responses from guys on here saying that they prefer small breasts and/or small butts on women.Media definitely promotes the ideal body type for women as having large breasts and a round butt, but that shouldn't be taken to mean that the male population as a whole actually wants that. There's also a certain type of guy out there that feels he needs to talk big and act macho, proclaiming he likes a "fat a$$ and huge t*#@". Here's my take on that. Any MAN that has a shred of CLASS and is going to be worth your time isn't going to feel the need to go around proclaiming that just so he can feel manly.There really are men out there that prefer small breasts and a small butt on women. I'm one of those guys; and it's not because I think boys are attractive. I'm not interested in men at all, and I'm quite sure of that. I'm guessing you just haven't run into one of those types of guys yet.There's much more to you that makes you a woman other than your breasts and butt. It's in the way you talk, think, walk, act, your interests, and the way you express your emotions. Let's also not forget that fact that you don't have a penis... THESE are the things that make a woman sexy.
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