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writes:We're 20, have been together for more than 6 months, and I moved 1000 miles away. We knew almost since we started dating that this day would come, but I haven't imagined we would mean this much to me. It's KILLING me, we separated only 5 days ago, and I can't study, can't be happy, I think about him all the time. We didn't break up, we text each other, we're both using skype. I love him very much, I've never felt this way in my life, neither has he. I don't know when and if I'm going to return 'home' (where he is), it depends, and I've still got 4 years to finish my college. I will see him in 3 months, and next time in summer, and I keep crying because of the whole situation, I'm becoming depressed, and don't know what to do...We're really a great match, and I'm wondering if there is someone of our age who made it work, because everyone keeps telling me it's impossible... I have NEVER been this close to a guy.If he moved, I would be able to go out with my friends, to somehow get my thoughts off him, but I'm in a country where I don't speak the main language, and that makes it very hard to me to find friends at college, although they're all nice, but naturally they're using their own language while talking to each other.I just wish this hadn't happened, I don't know how to move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answers! It means a lot to me.
I have to be where I am now, I moved because of my parents, and I don't know when I will return to my home country. We keep sending messages, and we can actually see each other while talking on Skype, so that makes it a lot easier. I probably would've killed myself if there were no computers. :-)
I'm counting days till the next time I will see him, in December. Wish me luck :-)
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reader, monkey friend  +, writes (4 October 2010):
It's only been 5 days; you miss him, that is normal. (I know from experience both in the dating world and with family moving, that it takes a long time to get adjusted without them.)Trust me though, you will get used to things; just give it time. In the meantime,try your best to concentrate on your studies even though I know that can be very difficult when you miss someone badly. Also, perhaps you could write letter? You could still email or talk on the phone, just because you moved doesn't mean all contact has to stop.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (4 October 2010):
 Long distance can work but it's hard work. The key is to have things to look forward to all the time. You need to plan trips to see each other at least every 6 months (more if possible) and stick to it. Do you have to be where you are to study or can yo do it somewhere else?
Things will be easier in time as you adjust to the distance but you definately need times to look forward to for sure.
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