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writes:I have a dilemma. My rating for my advice is kinda sucky, so I've decided to step on the other side of things. I have problems with social life too, like most people on the Internet. So here it is:Ok, it's my first time going out. I've been pretty independent throughout my life, and now there's this kid that likes me. He's always nervous around me, and today he said that he didn't have a pencil, while patting his gym shorts that don't have pockets. The reason I went out with this guy is because I felt bad for him. Like, really bad. So I say yes. A day in, I figure out how much drama is in dating. We barely even talk to each other. So I'm wondering, as it worth it? And if not, how do I say no to him?I know you're taking time out of your day, so lots of thanks to people that give advice. :)Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWow.
You guys ROCK.
Thanks! You gave me confidence to talk to him, honestly.
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reader, psychologist to her friends  +, writes (6 September 2014):
I don't think you should date someone if you honestly don't feel for them because it's a waste of their time and yours. Too many people out there settle for less than what they really want - and why? Just to have someone? It's then better to be alone. I read a cool quote recently about how so many things in life are ordinary, Love should not be one of them.
Besides, dating should be fun. You should feel excited to be around that person and get to know them. It's not worth it if you are not even feeling it.
I would be polite and let him down gently. Don't be too available for meetings/calls/texts. He'll get the hint.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 September 2014):
 Don't pity date. Unless you are interested don't go out on dates with a guy, suggest going as friend instead, that way you won't end up having to break up with a guy you never wanted to date in the first place.
Since you already said yes, I think you should go.
And next time he or another guy asks that you aren't interested in, tell them thank for the offer but no thank. You really don't owe a guy an explanation as to why you are saying no.
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