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writes:I've been in a relationship with this guy for a little bit short of a week now. I know that seems like a short period of time, and it is. But I feel like I shared a lot of myself already with this person, and of anyone else I feel like there's this amount of trust there I haven't really put toward any other guy.Today, he kissed me. It was my first kiss. He accidentally french kissed me, not knowing that I wanted a peck on the lips instead. I was a little shocked so I let it happen for 20 seconds. It was an embarassing and hilarious situation. I kept laughing afterwards and he kept apologizing. But when I got home, I felt like I really did want to express myself to him physically. I think about it and it's soo easy in my head, but when he's in front of me...I just can't seem to feel anything. His arms still feel strange when he wraps them around me. But I want to get used to him. I want to kiss him and mean it. I just don't know right now.I am also constantly worried I am not good enough sometimes. I'll feel bloated or I'll feel like I need to exercise more. My lips are chapped, etc, etc.I am losing sleep over this. I just want to relax but I can't. Any advice is greatly appreciated.
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (21 June 2010):
 I think it's only humanly, natural to feel nervy around someone you don't thoroughly know. A week is a very short time, too short to really know someone much less be totally at ease with physically expressing yourself. I'd say focus on relaxing. Be *you*; chapped lips? invest in a good, clear lip moisturizer. Do some crunches. Go for a run. These things make you feel good in mind and body. He kissed *you*, not someone else. Keep that in mind. He's obviously interested in you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2010): well...when i started dating my boyfriend...i used to be soooooo nervous around him for like a month or so...but i just wanna tell you,dont worry!! trust me,everything is gonna be fine and you will eventually get used to him...i've been with my boyfriend for a year now and i dont feel a bit shy around him anymore and he knows all my secrets...sometimes guys would feel more special if u open up to them so dont worry about telling him secrets and stuff...he's your boyfriend!:)
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (21 June 2010):
You're just nervous. You've just got into this relationship, and if it was your first kiss I'm assuming that he's your first boyfriend. Just explain to him that you're nervous and just want to take time and take it slow. If he's a good guy, he'll understand. It's just a matter of taking your time and really getting to know him and letting him get to know you.
As for not feeling good enough, you obviously are good enough otherwise he wouldn't have picked you. He's not asking for some airbrushed model. He's asking for you. You're who he wants in his life.
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