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male
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writes:I'm in a long distance relationship (on the game SecondLife), and my girlfriend has a male best friend on SecondLife. They have known eachother for 3 years now or so. She is the type that only has guys friends and admits it. I've only known her for about 17 days but she claims that she loves me and I feel like home to her. It's hard to connect with her because he talks to her ALOT. I've told her that it seems like they should be together and not this way. She also likes to have a 3 way conversation with us on the phone and I will feel like a third wheel because he takes control of the conversation and addresses her directly. It feels awkward. She said the story of him is, she's been his best friend and he had a chance to be with her, only that he decided to be with someone else when he had that chance, and so in the game of SecondLife he roleplays as her 3-4 year old daughter. We engage in cybersex, and phone sex, and she's even said that I can tell him to go to bed if I want to have intimate time with her. I really feel awkward though, but I like her alot just not sure if I want to stay in the relationship because of him. She told me to talk to her if I feel something is wrong. Well, it's going to happen too much I think.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (28 October 2013):
 having a gf on Second life is not like having an LDR in the real world.
the fact that you are not separating fantasy from reality is a bit disconcerting and worrisome.
do you understand that second life is a GAME?
do you do Second Life to avoid having to deal with reality?
I do not think that 2.5 weeks of playing online in a fantasy world constitutes a real relationship in any way and if it's ALREADY difficult and upsetting what do you think is going to happen in the future? MORE difficult and upsetting I can promise you that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2013): She isn't your girlfriend, your both living in some fantasy world.
Stop playing the game and meet people in real life, not a second life.
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female
reader, llifton +, writes (28 October 2013):
 i honestly have no idea what secondlife is, however, i agree with CMMP - get a firstlife girlfriend. lol.
he seems like a bit of a problem. he apparently rejected her, not the other way around. so she obviously liked him at one time. also; she has 3-way conversations with you two? that's odd. i would feel strange about that.
anyway, she doesn't love you. she doesn't even know you yet. 17 days is nothing.
if i were you, i would be skeptical and watch my back with this situation. i wouldn't put all my eggs in one basket.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (28 October 2013):
Get a first life girlfriend, problem solved (not that there won't be new ones).
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