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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi I am trying right now to get over the worst thing that has ever happened to me in my romantic life. About a month ago I met this guy at a club and we really hit it off and have been living a real intense, romantic life for the last month. He called me beautiful, an angel, and held my hand wherever we went, and gave me the best sex ever. I wanted to be with him past this summer while I was away from school, and I think if we could have stayed together longer, he would have felt the same way. Everything was going great. He would text me that he was thinking about me and introduced me to all his friends. Then a big bomb of news obliterated us. He went to the clinic to get checked and found that he might have chlamydia, and he is 95% sure it came from me. At first when he called me about it he just said to get tested and that this was not the last conversation we were going to have. I was hopeful. So I went to the clinic and they didn't find any signs of chlamydia in the pre-exam. Although, I am still waiting for the results. Before we can get them back he says that he can't handle this, that it's too sketchy, and that I should wait till I get back from school to call him again. I feel that I understand why he broke up with me, but I can't get over that I ruined our relationship because my last partner told me he was clean, and that I didn't have any signs to have so that I know I should get tested. I know I should have anyway but life got in the way (I know this is no excuse). I feel that if the roles were reversed, I would forgive him, and in all honesty, there is a chance that it was him who had it first, but of course there is no way to prove this. Is there some way that we can get back together and move pass this? Is there any way I can make him change his mind about the break up? Is there any way that he can somehow not see me as a diseased slut and call me his angel again? If none of those things seem possible, then can somebody tell how to move on and somehow forget that this even happened? I feel like I'm living a nightmare. I hate myself and my life and am wondering what I have done to let God and karma punish me so much. It seems like every time something good happens to me something just as bad or worse happens to me and makes me feel like I wanna die.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2010): I contracted chlamydia from an ex and had it for months before i found out. The only reason i knew then was because the next guy i was dating was having problems and went to get tested. He told me he was positive, and i took his virginity so i knew it was me who gave it to him. We are still dating a year later.
My point in this story is that my boyfriend, although hurt took the time to get my explanation and even took me to the doctor to get treated. I know everyone is different but your boyfriend should have a little more respect and understanding.
This is NOT your fault and he is wrong for treating you like it is. If he cools down and calls you(don't try to contact him) then let him know what he did wasn't acceptable. In the mean time decide once and for all if you want to be in a relationship with someone who reacts to the ups and downs of life in such a harsh way.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (30 July 2010):
If you do have it, then you need to accept that he wasn't happy and let him go. If you don't, then he's far too into himself and doesn't deserve another second of your time. You haven't shown any signs of it so far, and if you don't have it, then there is no point in beating yourself up. Don't sit there blaming yourself for his actions. I get the feeling that he's a pretty awful guy one way or another.
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