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writes:Hello. Well I apologise if this turns out to be a longwinded question. But I’m really struggling to come to terms with my boyfriends use of porn. I’ve been with him nearly a year and he has always been honest about the fact he watches it. He tells me he doesn’t watch a lot and I myself occasionally watch it. But the thing is I don’t think I can come to terms with it because my last boyfriend was addicted to it so much so that he was scarcely able to come orgasm with me during intercourse. If I recall it happened a hand full of times. Now I’m really worried that my new boyfriend is going to become the same. He works away so I can understand him using it while he’s at work. But it just makes me constantly worry. He has never watched it when he has been with me or anything. We have a very good sex life. But my last boyfriend has made me feel so insecure and I can’t get over it. Thank you for reading
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2011): Although I hate porn with a passion and wish no one looked at it ever, there is a huge difference between an occasional viewer and an addict.
I'm sure if you look back to the ex, you will see how he was emotionally unavailable to you during lovemaking. If the new guy is not numb, he's probably not an addict.
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reader, charliesdevil73  +, writes (18 August 2011):
 Honestly, it is something you either need to come to terms with or leave him. If he has been honest with you about it from the start, you should trust him to be honest with you if he thinks he has a problem. I can understand why you would be worried, but this guy is NOT your ex so don't judge the relationship based on your last. And if you have to, sit down and tell your boyfriend your worries. Having an open conversation about it may help you to see his porn use is different from your exes porn use. Good luck.
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