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writes:I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 7 months. For the first 2 months we only saw each other 2/3 times a week due to work and just getting to know each other. We got extremely close though. Due to our work schedules though we only actually spent maybe 1 whole day together so we made up for it by staying at each other’s all week, just sleeping usually as he doesn’t tend to finish work to 1am!He always tells me how much he loves me and i mean the world to him and he doesn’t know what he would do without me. Until recently.We had a small argument and we got over it but since then he has been distant. We never see each other throughout the week. He says that he’s got to be up early (which he does 6:30am as he now has an electrician job) which has never bothered him before, he use to like just sleeping next to me.Also if I text or call him now, he never answers or replies or takes 3 hours to get back to me but when I tell him about how this makes me feel he just tells me how much he loves me and that I shouldn’t be doubting that at this point in our relationship. I should also let you know that when we do eventually see each other it’s lovely. He’s amazing! I know a lot of this is just my head messing with me and having to adjust to not seeing him as much but I love him and I don’t get why the change in his behaviour? Any theories I’m pretty confused!
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reader, kachish  +, writes (18 August 2011):
It definitely does sound like something has changed on his end regarding this relationship. You say it was a small argument that you got over, but are his feelings the same on this? Maybe he believes it was a huge argument and he isn't quite over it.
Of course it's a difficult situation and he is the only one who can exactly say what's going on in his head. Some signs I'd look for though are
1. How long has it been since the 'argument'? If its only been a week or two maybe he just needs some space and will return back to the way he was.
2. Maybe the argument to him was a major problem and its still on going in his head. When you're actually hanging around him does he act different and seem less interested? He could also be taking some space to see how he feels about you and is slightly backing off.
3. Did he change immediately after the argument or a few weeks later? For example if you had the argument and he seemed a little different about it but a month later he began to stop hanging out during the work week then he might be interested in someone else or found a new hobby, friend etc.
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