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writes: Hello there, I was hoping somebody out there could give me some advice.I finished my ex girlfriend of 3 years about 8 months ago due to a few problems we were having. Basicaly it got a bit tiring doing the same thing over and over every night.Since then we have both moved. I found a girl who I lived with for a brief spell, but we broke up. It just wasn't the same and I couldn't adapt to having someone new!I know that my ex has a current boyfriend and we are still speaking, the thing is I really do still have strong feeling for my ex and I just wish we had never drifted apart. So do I tell her this or do I keep it locked away inside me.Please help
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reader, shortandsweet408 +, writes (18 January 2006):
 Tell her as soon as possible... You were the one who broke up with her. You are in a good place as you still speak. First off, pay close attention to how she acts and ask questions about her new boyfriend. If she seems really content, keep watching. Be there for her whenever she needs someone to talk to. Eventually when something goes wrong jump in. Tell her that you would never do what (he) did to her and that you miss what you two had. Then go on to tell her that you would like to someday try again, and that you want to take her out on a date. If she is hesitant to get back together but is finished with the other guy, make sure you two aren't seeing other people and set boundaries to rekindle the romance and restart the relationship one step at a time. I believe that if she is still in contact, even with the new boyfriend, that you always have a second chance.
Just be careful... you two once had something, you need to remind one another of the good times, but remind her that you made a mistake in breaking it off. You have grown and changed and are ready to try anything again.
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reader, lizabeth +, writes (18 January 2006):
you and your ex must have broke up for a big reason not just a few problems. there must have been something inside you telling you that the relstionship wasn't right. i think you should leave it, girls moan about it all the time how guys just are so indecisive, your kind of prooving that. it will take a long long time to get used to life without her, nearly 4 years is a long time, its not just going to go back to normal because normal for you is with your ex. you need to ask yourself if you honestly love her or just miss her. if you realise you love her but you know she has a boyfriend don't spoil that for her. if you love her you'll want her to be happy. if you still stay intouch maybe thats not the best idea, i know i'm more than likely telling you what you don't want to hear but remember you broke up for a reason. hope i've helped xxxx
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