| A
female
,
*.J
writes: Hi , I have had male friends sall my life. Just before my boyfriend and I got together I made a real good buddy. My boyfriend seems to have a problem with him. He is nice with my friend when he sees him, which is seldom, because I don't socialise with this friend anymore, for fear that boyfriend might think something's cooking, even tho there isn't.I've noticed everytime after we saw friend, boyfriend always feels uncomfortable. Anyway the other day I wanted to visit boyfriend, but his car was broken down, so when I phoned him and he told me this, I, without thinking, asked if I should maybe ask friend to drop me, thinking friend lives just around the corner. This set boyfriend off totally, and said how could I ask something like that, sounds like friend is always there to count on and will take me everywhere I want to go, but in a hurt voice. I apologised and felt bad, telling him that that's not the way I meant it. He says he has forgiven me and isn't thinking about it anymore, but he still sounds funny, almost standoffish and cold towards me still. I know it happened yesterday, but he has never stayed mad at me for more than a few hours. What can I do to make up for it, or to get that loving feeling back? We have started talking about getting married someday.... Is he thinking about breaking up with me? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2006): He can't get to gripes about your close male friend. Hey I feel pretty much the exact same way about mine. [sigh] The difference being, I don't blow up and if I feel uncomfortable, I nod it off, or shoot some hoops by myself, now that I'm back into bball. [ahem]
Anyway, it pretty much comes down to how willing you are to do allow this relationship to happen. If you love him, and you're all for it, then go right ahead and break off relationships with your friends. However, if I were in your bf's shoes, my lun! Please slap me silly for even suggesting that!
In contrast, I may be uncomfortable and unhappy, but what am I willing to do for my considerable other for her to be happy? If that means she keeps her close male friends, what am I to do? Nothing. Accept it.
|
