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writes:I am a 19 yr old girl and i am depressed about the things that l am suffering. Even though i am a very positive girl, still i am not able to overcome the obstacles. I was molested by my maternal uncle since childhood till now bt still i remained quiet because of family reaction and a little good things in him that he does for me sometimes. Other than that i have lost my mother. She died when i was just 12-13 yrs. Old so the thought of not spending much time with her makes me frustated. My father is a heart patient, paralysed as well after my mom's death. I've 2 brothers: elder one is least bothered about us and depressed from his life and quite selfish, hardly talks or smiles..Another bro is always into himself but cares for us and is too protective and interferes in my life and has ruined our financial stability. Overall, we have lost our mother, family and money after the death of my mom. I've a bf despite that i feel alone as my family doesnt understand my feelings. I've no true friends except 1 or 2. and quite depressed about my pathetic past and present. Since i am studying i feel i've lost that ability that i had at my mother's time. Please help me to understand what can i do. Help me.. Please help me.! :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2010): Thanx evryone..:) i am really glad to hear so many responses.
But i've tried talkng vd my brothers. It hardly helped as i am youngest at home. I have to look at my father & everyone. Being the only daughter and a girl at home, i cope up with things myself.
Moreover,my maternal uncle lives with us on rent so i can't tell my family about it.
I've tried everything but no one in the family is understanding except my mom, who passed away.! But in the end i just know how to smile.. :)
thanx in loads..:-)
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (15 October 2010):
Hi there,
Losing you mom, and not having your dad is hard yes.Your uncle...you need to tell someone or find a way to say "stop" or stay away from him.
First off...how about you? What do you want from your life? What kind of woman do you want to be? What kind of job do you want to have?
Once you have set those goals for yourself, start working towards them, no matter what. Forget all the bad around you, and focus on the one good thing you have left...YOU!!!
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (15 October 2010):
 I can see why you would keep quiet about something like your uncle molesting you, for the sake of your family but somebody has to know! You cannot let him do this to you, take advantage of your body like that! Forget the little good things he has done, it just is not right that he is doing that to you. You have to make sure he is out of your life.
Your brother, whatever it is he is going through, he has to face it alone and find out just who he is exactly and what his place is in your family. Maybe you can talk to him and ask him if you can help him.
As for your other brother, he needs to stop wasting money and start realizing what he has done to this family. Your father is weak right now so you have to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and take care of this family, perhaps even, pull your brothers into taking care of this family.
I hope you feel better about things. Your past and present is not pathetic. Through this, you will grow stronger and wiser, you will find that you can care for everyone and hold this family together like your mother did. You are your mother's daughter and so, by blood, you have the ability to take care of things. Keep your positive attitude and let it guide your hand.
I hope that helps.
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reader, Sarahbum +, writes (15 October 2010):
I think you need to get yourself some counseling for all that's happened to you. You haven't dealt with each issue and it's all built up. I think you need to socialise more so you feel less alone. Are there any classes you'd be interested in doing?
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