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writes:Hi...a BIG PROBLEM...i am dating my childhood frinds girlfriend for the past 3 months....they had relationship for long eight years in which they had breakup twice and that too for one yr and second one also the same...they patched up back one and half years back.....me and his GF have been friends through him and know each other for the past 3 yrs......and since then we became the best friends where in we both used share what we could not share with anyone ...may it be his BF also......my friend relocated out of town and then we started meeting each other oftenly.....i had feelings for her but did not say ....however one day i said and she also responded in the same way and then the things moved on between us....The problem is: she is not able to leave him completly and nor me.....she says that she needs time to think about the right person for his life......as i have been a spoiled brat all my past life.....but never had any relationships...still she has a feeling that she might regret her decision in future if she goes on with me.......PLZ TELL ME WHT SHLD I DO.......
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (10 November 2010):
 Ok does that mean she dumped you since she called you a spoiled brat? If she hasn't then she probably is going to dump you soon..I'd back off from her, let it go because she doesn't sound like a very good girlfriend in the first place.
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reader, YUVI +, writes (10 November 2010):
YUVI is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank u all for ur advice...they both have been separated now....they do not talk to each other ...however they chat online and he send her messages still also...however she has decided to be with me...and told about us to her parents...they are ready for this...however i feel sumtyms...that my luv for her would fall small to her past 8 years of relationship...she has been abused by everyone in friend circle to be with me ...and still she wants to be with me.....what should i take this as....her full commitment or what...sumtyms still she says that she needs tym to think about us...and i have read her chats with my frinds 2 days back where in she wrote that she has not decided about me and needs tym...however she says to me that she has decided and its me who is a spoiled brat and she doesnt see the changes that i have brought inmyself...and she doesnt feel that confidence in me to spend her lyf....Plz advice further my friends....
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2010): Plse tell You what to do....Simple- STOP CHEATINGWould your best friend do to you what you are doing to him.If she can cheat on her bf , what stops her cheating on you?If she can lie and betray her bf , can she or will she do the same?Bottom line, your best friend has invested 8 years with this cheater. Do you want to lose a frienship over a mere woman? Your frienship with your childhood friend should be more important. -LoveGirl
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (15 October 2010):
Let it go, do you want to lose your best friend too? 8 years is a long time to swallow, she's got some history with your best friend..you, hate to say it but you were her rebound. If you keep on in this love triangle, she will just keep yanking your chain, making you wait around for her however long it takes for her to decide. And let me tell you, you won't like the outcome. Odds aren't in your favor, she even said so. Take it as a hint to give her up.
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reader, Cccc  +, writes (15 October 2010):
 Yea you should probably just leave her for now and give her a HUGE amount of space because 8 years is very long!
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