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writes:How do I get rid of a crush? I'm married, so is he, it's highly innappropriate and it's starting to cloud my every thought. HELP!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2011): That is a tough one. I am going through the exact same thing and it is driving me insane. We are both married as well. It seems the feelings are reciprocated in my case. I have to see him regularly. I have avoided him, talked to him, tried pretty much every strategy. But I can't seem to get him out of my head. If you try to be friends with him, you may see his real personality and not see him as the idealized version of the person you have made him out to be in your head. This may ease it a little. Failing that, honestly, the only thing that will work is distance. If you can cut or limit contact, that would in time help the crush fade. But I am not so sure because my crush was not around for awhile and it just got worse when I saw him again!!! For me, it seems like a no win. But try to go with your feelings and accept them. Maybe in time they will lessen? Do not place yourself in a position where you have to talk to him or see him as much. If you seek him out, trust me, it will be so much worse because your crush will start to feed off him and take on a life of its own.
Try focusing on your husband and doing things together. Something might be lacking in your relationship right now. Maybe reconnecting with each other is what you need to get your mind off this other guy.
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reader, BeckieYMA6  +, writes (14 April 2011):
 Write down everything you love about your partner, and everything you hate about your crush.Whenever you feel yourself thinking about him in a 'crush' way, read through it:)It should make you feel differently about your crush with time :)
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (14 April 2011):
 Cut them out of your life completely. Distance is the only thing I've found to help at all. It can suck, but it's for the best.
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