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writes:My roommate, MJ, found out she was pregnant from a one-night-stand. When she asked me what to do, I told her she had three choices: (1) Raise the baby who would probably be disabled because we've been doing a lot of molly lately, (2) give the baby up for adoption ordrop it off at the hospital after it's born or (3) Have an abortion. She chose abortion and I loaned her. $ for half and drove her to and from. Now, she's really depressed, sleeping all the time, not eating or showering. She has terrible nightmares. I've been giving her my Zoloft to see if that helps but it doesn't. She won't go to therapy I can't talk to anyone about this because it's a secret, but I regret it too - I'm Catholic How do I help her through this and get over my own guilt?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2019): This is a real letter, why would I make it up? I only gave MJ Zoloft because she's not getting help and it helped me. I'm honesty worried about her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2019): As a grandmother what I am reading I really hope is a fake letter.If this is real the only advice I can give you is get yourself to rehab.You and your friend have major drug problems.There is someone in your family that really loves you and it would break their heart to wake up to the police knocking at your door to get someone to identify your body.With the drugs you are taking you are on your way to that.Please know you are better than this.Life can give you so much if you let it.Please know if you feel like no one cares..I care.You can do this.Please for yourself and all the people who love you get help.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (10 August 2019):
 Firstly, PLEASE stop messing with drugs (prescription or otherwise). You must surely realize this will just mess up your lives even more.
Secondly, your friend sounds like she desperately needs professional help. While you are doing your best for her, you are not qualified to help her.
As you are a Catholic, can you talk in confidence to anyone at your church? I appreciate this is a "secret" but being an adult means knowing when you are out of your depth and need help. Please talk to someone before your friend gets worse.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 August 2019):
 She made her choice. That isn't on you.
Secondly, DO NOT give her ANY meds PRESCRIBED to you. YOU are not a doctor and should NOT be giving her meds like they are candy.
Thirdly, If I were you I would look into finding some phone numbers and/or website that offers someone to TALK to this about. YOU can't FIX this, that IS on her to do. She made a choice and now feels regret, which is understandably. She was NOT in a good place, and STILL isn't in a good place.
Support her best as you can, BUT NOT by giving her meds she shouldn't BE taking all willy nilly. Ask if she want to talk and then JUST listen to her. And give her the numbers for hotlines you can find that help people talk about the aftermath of having an abortion.
As for you, well they say confession is good for the soul.
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