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writes:I've recently got my first boyfriend at 15. I am a bit nervous and unsure of what to do. for a start there is an age difference of 3 years. My friends think I have been moving a bit fast and I had no idea! I didn't know what was acceptable and what wasn't I just treated it as if I was dating someone my own age - which looking back seems a bad move. We havn't done anything very sexual like fingering etc... so I didn't see the problem. Except apparently I was wrong. By the time my friends told me I shouldn't have let him see my boobs at 1 week he had already seen me in various states of underess (in person not on cam or pics). So now I can't tell them about all the other stuff we have done because they will be really shocked and I don't want to fal out about it. we have been going out for nearly 5 weeks now and I really like him. I can see it turning in to a long term relationship. The only thing I am ashamed of is, I let him dry hump me. Which sounds really bad to me. I really had trouble saying no. He's such a nice guy and I didn't wanna hurt his feelings. I have put my foot down though and I feel better for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): I'm also fifteen and recently got an eighteen year old boyfriend. We've been going out for just over a month, and I really do like him.And they've really only got one thing on their mind - sex. He's an hormonal teenaged dude and while I'm sure he likes you, maybe even loves you, he's got desires to fulfill. So for now, he might be okay with a hand job, and perhaps you'll even get round a blow job but eventually you'll only be doing those things to get out of having sex. Dry humping is nothing. Fingering is... well something. But have a serious talk with him about what you're comfortable about and your boundaries. Best of luck! xx
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (13 May 2009):
 i can see where your friends are coming from.........
1)the age difference is not to bad depending on his maturity of course, if he is a jerk and immature he might try to take advantage of you because you are younger and less experienced......be careful!
2)i can understand how you might have shown him things while you guys were making out probably but it is nice to leave some things for the imagination.....he'll want you more if you aren't too eager to "give things up"
3)the dry humping is pretty bad ...because......he might think that he is getting closer to what he really wants( and you can't blame him, he is a man after all with wild hormones)..... slow things down so that you don't lead him on and so that he doesn't lose respect for you and starts thinking of you as "the girl who will do whatever i want her to"
4)if you really like him as a person and you would like this to turn into something more serious and long term.......remember that every good solid relationship started off as friends first so that the 2 people can really get to know each other and like each other for the right reasons not because their hormones say so.....
hope this helps a bit and all the best to you hun:)
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