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*ittleMissSunshine17
writes:Well I have been with my boyfriend 7 months now, but there are so many guys that have been flirting with me ever since i started dating him. Now he is realizing that he has given me so many chances and doesn't know if he should now. I'm afraid of losing him. But in the past we always got into arguments, but we always solved them and right now I've been pouring my heart out to him for the past 3 hours because I'm afraid to lose him and he always says that he doesn't know what he would do without me, or he loves me so much no matter what and I will never lose him. Also he has lost trust for me. I need relationship advice on how to earn his trust back right now. please help! :( In desperate need of earning trust back.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 April 2012):
 If you have not done anything and are being accused of doing things you did not do or lying about it why do you want to stay with this boy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2012): Well then he is a little insecure and you gotta ask him to give you the benefit of the dought, if what you say is true. He probably wont though, some guys are just jealous and paranoid, and often stay that way till they push the girl away.
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reader, LittleMissSunshine17 +, writes (8 April 2012):
LittleMissSunshine17 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I haven't flirted with any guys though... He thinks I have. But i told them I'm happily taken right now but they keep coming back and I don't know how to handle thiss..
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (8 April 2012):
 If you have been flirting with other guys then yes off course his trust is going to be broken. You need to start earning your trust back by showing him that he is the only guy you want to be with, don't flirt with other guys, tell him and reassure him that you only have eyes for him. Drop contact with all the guys that are flirting with you and if they try tell them you are happy in the relationship you are in at the moment and to stop.
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reader, Great or Good  +, writes (8 April 2012):
 That is cool as you see that there was something in which you were not doing good, then that is where you should start. Make it a point that what ever you guys were having argument about, change it or do it differently or don't do it anymore.
The problem is like asking a person to do or not to do something several times, and still you find out nothing changes, or else you lie and at the end he discover the truth it can really spoil your relationship. Make a point that what ever you promise to do do as promised, never promise what you won't do. Let your NO be NO, and your YES be YES. Stop flirting with those guys if ever he doesn't likes it.
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reader, Accarysin  +, writes (8 April 2012):
Hey sweetie, you can't help it if guys flirt with you. You are clearly a very attractive girl and if he blames you for the attention other men give you then he is the one with the problem. The important thing to remember that you shouldn't be flirting back, as long as you are steering clear of flirting with these other guys then your boyfriend has no right to distrust you. Besides, if he loves you and cares for you, trust should come naturally. Just because these boys flirt with you, doesn't mean you are going to leave him for them.. you are his girl and he is your boy and he needs to remember this. If he doesn't trust you then maybe it isn't meant to work out. Trust is key in a successful relationship..in my experience openess is key too, be open and honest with each other. Good luck hun. xo
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2012): You cant just earn trust back right now, trust is one of them things that are hard to get and can be lost with the snap of a finger. As for the flirting some is okay, but you shoulda listened if he expressed he didnt like it to that point where he thinks it means your gonna cheat. There is problems on both sides.
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reader, baby-blue-eyes +, writes (8 April 2012):
so basically you flirted with other guys whilst you knew you had a boyfriend? im sorry but i can completely understand why he doesnt trust you, i wouldnt either. i think you need to grow up to be quite honest and i also think your boyfriend needs to find a girl who will actually be loyal to him rather than flirting with the first guys who show her interest
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