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36-40,
*hortyanna
writes:My boyfriend is 16 and I am 20. He grew up in a very Christian baptist family and went to private school when I met him. Long story short, he believed that he was "in love" with me, started living with me and was kicked out of private school because of it. I'm trying to get him back in public school but he only went for one day, and now refuses to go back. He wants to get his GED but I don't know if I the best thing for him. Now it seems like the relationship is going downhill. How can I get him to listen to me about what is best for him?
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reader, penta +, writes (3 October 2007):
 You need to decide what's best for you and let him do what's best for him. Otherwise you've just replaced his mother as the woman who tells him what to do.
What you will accept in a mate is one of the things you can decide for yourself. For example, tell him that you don't want to have to be the major breadwinner in the family, so he needs to either show that he's got a plan (GED then college, GED then GOOD job (which he won't find easily without an education), or back into HS). But he has to have a plan and he has to follow up on it. Taking the easy way out and letting you pay all the bills is NOT an option.
Do not put yourself into a position of nagging him. It will only backfire.
BTW, is 16 the age of consent in your state? (It's 18 in mine.) You could be prosecuted for statutory rape without anyone "pressing charges." Be very careful.
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reader, rcn +, writes (3 October 2007):
 I agree, this is not a good situation for you. You're not a mother, you're a girlfriend. He set his standards for himself (ged etc), now you set yours. This relationship is going for a fall. Just by your explanation about what's good for his, and he doesn't see it, much different maturity levels. He wants to take the easy way out to have an adult relationship as a child. I see you have the US flag on your profile, if that's true, you can also face prosecution for this relationship as well.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (2 October 2007):
He's a loser who thinks he knows it all. You're headed for trouble.
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