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writes:I love my wife a lot ..its been 5 years since we are married tried every option possible right up to IVF...but its not working..The worst part is my wife is now getting very disturbed by the fact that she is yet to conceive.all our common frinds have babies not and thats putting huge peer pressure on her...i have spoken to her in detail and told her that its not that horrible..but you know i am not able to find a way out and make her have relxed approach about this...Please help as due to her hurt feeling ,i m in great trouble and only thing i have in mind is how should i help her ?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (7 November 2009):
Reassure her as nmuch as you possibly can, beause women who ar trying to get pregnant do not respond well to stresst. She really needs to know you care about her, and really needs to know you're there and you're listening.
Also, I agree with the post below. You both need to get tested for fertility. She needs to have her womb tested, and you need to have your sperm tested. Start there and see what the doctor says. All the best to you.
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reader, HonningKanin  +, writes (7 November 2009):
 If IVF has not worked and after five years of trying, its time the both of you test your goods. Meaning both of you need to go to the doctor to test your sperm and her womb. It could be you are shooting blanks or they are not moving and it could be that she is either barren or maybe something as simple as has a high womb neck which makes it difficult for an egg. There are a whole range of reasons why some people fail to conceive and without going to the doctor you will never know.
I know that if your blood types do not match, her body will automatically will reject the children if she does not receive an injection first. I am currently in that position with my husband.
You should always comfort her and tell her it is not her fault if she is unable to conceive. Sometimes it is down to genetics that someone simply cannot conceive and people have as much control over that as their hair colour. Maybe, if you and she are up for it, you might consider adoption. Her thirst for mother hood might be partly due to society, but more likely because of her biology. A child adopted can be nurtured just as much as your own and are people who do need the love and attention. So it is an option too if you find you both are unable to conceive.
HonningKanin
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