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writes:I've been married 2 1/2 years and my wife doesnt like having sex all that often....maybe once a week or so...We are both 23 years old and she has offered to let me have my way with her whenever I want, but I dont want to just cum and done kinda thing. I dont know what to do about it and we fight so much about this issue.Please help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008): I had that problem with my wife as well but I was lucky to get it once a month and I'm 27 years old which means my sex drive is pretty strong. We are no longer together partly because of that. I have a new girl I've been dating about 7 months or so and at first she wanted it more than I did. Now it's opposite and she thinks I have a problem that requires help! However I have sought council on that and I don't have any real problem with addiction or anything, I'm just a normal guy in his 20's that has a healthy sex drive. I am afraid it will complicate our relationship and possibly end it. She says I pressure her too much which further hinders her desire to make love. I don't feel that way because I learned in my marriage to my ex that getting angry about it only makes it worse so now I handle it differently, I just don't know how to make my girlfriend feel like I'm not pressuring her. I asked her how she can feel that way even though I don't speak of sex and she says that she knows I want it. Now how can that be pressure? I could just ignore her... would that make her feel better??? no.... I don't know what to do now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): It's very sad, but I know just how you feel. I am going through the same situation and don't know what to do. I have confronted her about it and that didn't work. I even told her that my 42 year old mom who is married to a 63 year old guy gets more action than me. This shit is sad and is really bugging me!
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reader, birddseedd  +, writes (11 November 2008):
At least you are intimate that often. I hardly remember the last time. just over a year in marriage.
whats the same about a married man and a gay man.
if you have fluffy pillows on your couch,
your either gay, or married
if you have ever been antique shopping during a foot ball game
your either gay, or married
if you do not remember the last time you had sex with a woman
your either gay, or married
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (12 October 2008):
 Did your wife feel this way before you were married? How long has this been going on for? You should try to talk to her about this and ask her if there is something on her mind. It could be she's feeling stressed out at work. If you are having financial problems then she could be worrying about them and this too could be the cause of her low libido. Are you both still as close (apart from being intimate) as you ever were? Do you both try to spend quality time together as a couple? Something is on her mind... you just have to find out what it is.
I can give you ways to spice up your sex life if you think that would help. Please feel free to email me on Dear Cupid if you want more help.
~Eve~
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2008): i think that you are 2 different people i mean personalities may b you are more romantic than she is and i think that is the key but note one thing it is not regular that some one esaly change so it is up to you my advice to you is 1- to ask her for sex act as if you no longer care about this issue i know it is hard but if bare this period of time you will got what you want.2-when she ask you for it react but not the way you did before don't show her your exitment.3- this will drive her crazy , remeber human beings want things that they don't owen so be an un owned thing for her i mean you don't have her compelte reacteion when you need her so why do you.4- if you can't do that ( i mean waiting) move to anther girl because it will end you and her always fighting and nothing changes .
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reader, canada guy +, writes (24 September 2008):
canada guy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the advice......i should go into detail a bit more.....she was on the pill but is no longer. i thought it could be the cause of her not wanting sex so after ALOT of arguing she decided to go off it. so far nothing has changed. also with regards to my performance lol....i have had nothing but great reports from all my lovers as well as her, i go out of my way to please a woman.
one other thing that i should mention is that if she lets me "have my way with her" she doesnt want anything to do with it. she says it feels good but doesnt want any foreplay, nor does she allow me to even touch her between her legs. we get undressed, put on a condom and then have sex, i cum and we are done.
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reader, peter_pan +, writes (23 September 2008):
Well, there are a number of things that might contribute to her having a lower sex-drive than you. For instance, is she on birth-control pills? Most of those lower her libido (though, she should definitely be taking something -- but there are alternatives out there that do not rely on hormonal replacement). Alternatively, there are things you can do as male to lower your own sex drive (for instance, low doses of most anti-depressants can serve this function).
If it isn't both of your Libido-s that are out of wack, maybe just try talking with her: tell her that sex doesn't work for you, or isn't nearly as pleasurable without her also enjoying it. Tell her that her enjoying it is what turns you on--and that you need to know what she wants. Maybe share fantasies, etc.
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