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writes:The other night i was talking to my friend who's a girl and we got into the ever-so-popular "all guys are perverts" argument. She asked me why most guys usualy focus more on the looks or a girl than their personality. I had never really thought about why we do but i was aware of it. After a couple of minutes i came up with this. Im pretty sure that im not the first to find this out and maybe i was the last but im going to share it anyway. I told my friend that it's because we live in a world where most girls expect guys to aproach them, instead of the other way around.This or corse means that most guys are looking for girls to aproach instead of waiting for a girl to come to him. Now, unless the guy is blind, that means he is looking with his eyes at females, deciding which ones to aproach. Because of this most guys rate a girl on looks first, instead of personality. Since girls could probably just wait for a guy to come to them with their eyes closed, most of them dont focus on the looks of a man first off. Most guys dont run to their guy friends and tell them that they just met a very nice and kind girl with a wonderful personality. But girls do.But anyways this is just a thought i had late last night and i thought that it might be worth a post. Thanks for reading!~SFL Reply to this Article
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reader, theboythatcriedhotgirlfriend  +, writes (26 August 2009):
 When push comes to shove it all boils down to one simple fact that any honest person will acknowledge; looks are more attractive than personality.Besides, when you're walking down the street u dnt say"wow check out her nice personality and charming nature". Unless you're good looking to them, why would someone approach you on the street? My point is good looks are the wrapper and a good personality is the sweet. Who wants a product with poor packeging??? Its not because we are pervs, we are human.
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reader, Six_Floors_Left +, writes (21 August 2009):
Six_Floors_Left is verified as being by the original poster of the question I like the point LonelyTwo made. Im pretty sure that everyone knows that stating the obvious over and over isnt going to get us anywhere. But how i see it is that there are people that have the ability to discover the problem, people to come up with a solution for the problem, and those who have the power to put the solution into action. There aren't many people that have ever had the ability to do all three. Some might have one or two but the people with three are usualy the ones that will be remembered for years to come.
~SFL
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reader, sammi star +, writes (20 August 2009):
 Yeah I think you're kinda right in what you're saying, and K c100 is spot on, of course we don't go around thinking that way but it's built into all of us.
I think you notice peoples looks first because if you don't know someone it's all you have to go on right? just like, the nicer somebody is as a person the more attractive they become and vice versa..well that's what happens with me anyway lol.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (20 August 2009):
 I think it is a little bit of what you said combined with the fact the really we havent evolved all that much past our cavman/cavewoman instincts!
Back then, reproduction was the sole aim of humans being on earth, therefore it was the most important factor when picking a "mate". So for men, they needed to find a woman who would be ideal to carry his children, and the only way to tell if a woman is suitable for bearing children (without today's scientific methods) is to look at them! Wide hips, ample breasts....these are all signs that a woman is fertile and will be able to have children without complications (back in the day when skinny women would not have been able to give birth due to c-sections not being an option!).
So men used to pick their partner based on their looks - and this has filtered through to the men of today. Whereas the "cavewoman" would look for a man who was strong (so he could provide for the family), a natural leader (again more power means he can provide better for the family), and someone who had a nuturing manner so he would look after the family. Looks did come into it a little but nothing was more important than the man's ability to go out and collect food, make fire etc etc.
We are all really cavemen and women at heart (or at least in the mind a little!)
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