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writes:Please help I don't know how to handle this. My boyfriend of 2 years told me he was planning a surprise weekend away for this weekend and I told my family and friends and this week ago I wanted him to give me an idea of where we were going so I know what to pack and he was a bit strange and said he would let me know, and today I said I really have to have some idea what to pack and he told me we were going to his mother's and I was because he things did not work out for him regarding the weekend as it was going to be the loan of a place for free and he didn't have money for anything else. Now I don't have a problem with a person having no money or a plan going wrong, but he knew 2 weeks ago that he could not have the place and he let me keep believing and telling everyone in sight! Shouldn't he have told me earlier because now I look a real fool - the girl who gets a special weekend away at her boyfriend's mom! He has promised me things before and not come through.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (17 May 2013):
 Hi
I actually feel for him, he tried to plan something and it went wrong, not his fault. Yea he should have told you - but there you were telling the world and his mother that he was taking you away for this amazing weekend.
He was listening to you getting excited about it all and there he was, plans fallen through, no cash to take you anyplace - so came up with his mum plan to ease the let-down.
Yes he has let you down, but maybe the *2* of you could save for a weekend away, if he hasn't much cash. That's a partnership.
However if you just want a guy who spoils you, who can and will deliver the goods, then he is not for you is he ?
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reader, Caring Aunty A  +, writes (17 May 2013):
 Who in there right mind would think that a surprise week-end can be substituted with going to his Mother’s place!? What a romantic consolation prize? He should have told you when he knew and said; we’ll have to postpone this trip for another time… That would have given me a romantic soft on :(
If you think money it’s a problem at your age… Be prepared to have more week-ends at his Mother’s!? Once he knows you’re okay with him not keeping promises it’ll be B&B at Mamas House?
Meanwhile you get him to owe you one to ensure he keeps ‘a’ promise at least. If he can’t keep them, then you keep it for him :)
Take Care – CAA
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2013): Start promising him sex and really build up to it, then start giving him bologna sandwiches when it gets down to the wire.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (16 May 2013):
 Tell him from now on he need to piss or get off the pot. Explain to him how disappointed you get when things are just hot air. And I guess you will have to just take his "plans" with a grain of salt until you know for sure whether they pan out or not. Certainly don't blab about them until you know for sure.
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