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writes:Hi, I am deeply, madly in love with this women, I've been with her for one year and four months. I lied to her about myself, so that I can have some type of chance with her, and I lied about my past (which I don't care). Everything started great until, I she found out about the lies, now its been so many chances that she given me to say the truth that after a year and four months I confessed everything that I know and everything that I lied to her about... and because of my stupidity and idiotic way of thinking she has pushed herself away from me, she is attracted by somebody, and she wants to be with him because he is a truthful person, and she won't be with me unless I leave the house, finish school, and do a massive 380 degrees on her to back with me, (mind you this women really loves me to death, and I mean to the point that any man would love to be with, and I really do not want to lose her, and I know that she deep down inside loves me to, that she wishes that she didn't have to be with someone else, but because of my stupidity I'm driving her away). What should I do, please help me with this? Reply to this Question
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reader, Gridrebel +, writes (22 January 2010):
 If she is attracted to someone else, she doesn't love you to death! It sounds like you need to clean up your act. Not for her but for yourself. A woman wants to have pride, confidence, trust and a feeling of security with the man she is with. You are not instilling any of these qualities with her. It may be too late to make the requested changes in this relationship. Only time will tell. Regardless, you need to make some changes anyway to be a better person for yourself and any possible future partner.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2010): first thing. did you say that she is attracted to someone else already?
anyway, confessing your lies to her is the best thing you did. a relationship build on lies never last. then if she is willing to give you another chance, you need to smarten up(since you know that your stupidity is the con here, so it should be easy for you to figure out what makes her happy)
she want you to leave the house? maybe is it better for the relationship to go slowly and work from far for now till everything go back to normal and she get to trust you again. because now she doesn't.
you need to talk to her more and have strong communication between the both of you. she is hurt now, and only time and you kissing her ass will heal it situation.
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (22 January 2010):
 Dear Anon,"and she won't be with me unless I leave the house, finish school, and do a massive 380 degrees on her to back with me"There is your answer.If you like/love her that much you will regret it for the rest of your life not doing it.Get an education, get a job, be independent. You got a 2nd chance most people never get and most don't deserve. If you are a good person and a truely cherish her through ACTIONS and not just words, you deserve that second chance that you have.-IHateWomanBeaters
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