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He's unemployed, no career goals...what should I do here?

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Question - (22 January 2010) 3 Answers - (Newest, 22 January 2010)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I've been with a guy for four years. Before I met him I was completely obsessed with the thought of him. I finally actually got with him, and things started out good. We are exactly alike, and spend all our time together. We both really love each other. The only problem is, he is 24, on unemployment,broken car,no money, no career..i think you see where I'm going with this. Now he says he is going to the army to change his life, which is probably a lie. He has cheated, but so have I. We argue a lot, and I feel like I have to take care of him like his mom, and I get nothing in return. I spend all the money, gas, ect.. on him. And after four years he doesn't appreciate anything I do, and he hasn't done a single special thing for me in a year. But I literally cannot go a day without talking to him..How do I stop this cycle.

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A female reader, Delilah Ireland +, writes (22 January 2010):

I agree. Join a club/gym, meet new people, expand your friends circle. Sounds like hes a close friend too, unfortunately he won't satisfy you in the long run, and sounds like you're feeling run down and not appreciated. If you can't remember one special thing hes done for you then its time to get your support together first and move on. x

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (22 January 2010):

End it. He's no good as a boyfriend.

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A male reader, IHateWomanBeaters United States +, writes (22 January 2010):

IHateWomanBeaters agony auntHow do you stop the cycle?

By ending it.

You cannot stop it or slow it.

People are not meant to be together sometimes.

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