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writes:Ok, my gf and I enjoy our sex life and we r very experimental. We are normally a very private and intimate couple but we’re always open to try new things. (We r 28yrs old btw) Now which guy wouldn’t fancy a threesome? (of course FFM) but I never thought about it cuz I didn’t expect her to agree, but surprisingly SHE was the one to propose, and her purpose is to PLEASE ME which I couldnt be more grateful for. Now of course she has some rules about this which I don’t mind. I can’t engage in any intimate actions with the extra girl or like “DO HER”! But the she can do whatever to turn me on more… in other words, the girl would be like an extra sets of lips. We both are very excited about it, but I wana b careful! Cuz she IS very excited about it, but she can go crazy if she imagines me doing the other girl! She can be very jealous sometimes. I wana go by her rules completely and I think we can maintain the situation, but I’m still afraid if it accidently goes more than expected or it turns out that its not what she imagined. neither of us is a cheater, we're crazy in love and as for me, i would STOP the minute i c her uncomfortable, but i think it would still b a bit too late...What do u think? should we go for it?Ladies PLEASE :) and experimented guys!Things to know about us:we both never had sex with anyone else. we never tried threesomes.she is not testing me, she is a very sweet person and she loves to please me. She is not bisexual and she is definately NOT into this for her personal sexual pleasure. she just wana c me more turned on.
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reader, My friend +, writes (20 August 2008):
My friend is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your answers... well except pkg4, yes u ARE fucked up and i would say a bad reader! i dont think u even understood the whole point, and what u said is very rude!
anyways... after all, we ended up talking about this last night, i made her even read some of the posts and we realised that its a fantacy that we dont need. we're crazy about each other and we have lots of stuff to experiment anyways. we always have very rewarding sex eventhough we've known each other for more than 8 yrs already! we just caught up in the heat of a horny discussion about fantacies! lol she admitted that she didnt think it thru, she only focused on the part that she wants to turn me on more! anyways, i dont regret any of this, we did have a healthy discussion, and we ended up doin it like rabbits last night! :) lol and now, we're convinced that we dont need it, and its out of both our systems :)
thank you all for your great answers, u were of help. im new here and i hope i'll do the same for you guys :) cheerz
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2008): "she is not testing me, she is a very sweet person and she loves to please me. She is not bisexual and she is definately NOT into this for her personal sexual pleasure. she just wana c me more turned on."
Ugh; bad idea. The two of you should *NEVER* do a threesome where *both* of you are not excited about the idea. What she's proposing is known as "taking one for the team", and I (and you should!) can tell by the conditions that she'll be upset if you do almost anything with the other woman - and in the heat of the moments, that may well happen and you'll have an upset, insecure girlfriend. Not such a good deal, is it?
If you're serious about this, consider the idea of also doing an MFM as a gift to her, as equally much as this is a gift to you. Consider how you'd feel about such an event, and the rules you'd put on her interactions with the 2nd man, and then consider how carefully you'll need to behave in the proposed FFM. Please re-read your post, and realize what very thin ice you'll be skating on. Unless you put yourself at a comfortable, but definite, distance from the F/F action, you risk saying or doing something that both of you will regret.
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reader, codeladylee  +, writes (19 August 2008):
Don't do it! For all you know, this could be a major test on her part of your love and fidelity. Even if it's not and she really wants it, consider the implications on your relationship. It may seem sweet, but like every other perversion of the beautiful gift of sex, it comes with a heavy price. There's also the psychological implication-you can forget about complete trust in each other, and no marriage can survive that. Bottom line- if you love this woman truly, sit her down talk some sense into her, and make some crazy love to her so she'll forget this idea. Trust me, it's not worth it.
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reader, pkg4  +, writes (19 August 2008):
 and you want to marry her ? im not old fashioned at all but are you fucking joking? good luck to both of you maybe i am fucked up. why would you even ask this question? why stop there why not have an open marraige and sleep with anyone you want, i could maybe understand if you were married for twenty years and your marriage was boring but thats the last thing you should be thinking about now. what about kids , family ect. are you for real! but then again everyday i see what a fucked up world we live in. o well who am i to judge good luck and if your ever in my town ill consider banging your future wife! lol
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reader, pkg4 +, writes (19 August 2008):
and you want to marry her ? im not old fashioned at all but are you fucking joking? good luck to both of you maybe i am f____ up. why would you even ask this question? why stop there why not have an open marraige and sleep with anyone you want, i could maybe understand if you were married for twenty years and your marriage was boring but thats the last thing you should be thinking about now. what about kids , family ect. are you for real! but then again everyday i see what a f____ up world we live in. o well who am i to judge good luck
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reader, Wulfgrimm +, writes (19 August 2008):
I agree with Tellulah.Its more trouble then its worth.Besides a three some where you can't do anything with the other girl...? Thats just stupid.Three somes arnt as much as they are cracked up to be. I have done it and I will tell you I would rather be with one person that I care very much about then 2 people.good luck.
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (19 August 2008):
 Dont do it!!!
It very rarely works out, and I believe it would end your relationship. A lot of couples go into this thinking that they can handle it, but in reality its not as sexy as you think it will be and someone always gets hurt.
I expect you will get a few replies telling you to 'go for it'.
Honestly! you can sugar coat it as much as you like, but its still betrayal to your partner.
You did ask opinion's, and I know a few couples that have tried it and its ended in tears.
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