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writes: I am a father of two; one 20-year-old son and a 15-year-old son.I have heard my 20-year-old son is dating a 38-year-old woman (at first I thought it was a rumour, it was actually verified later!) and I am worried about the age gap.What problems would he face as a result of the age gap?? Mark Reply to this Question
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (14 April 2006):
 Hi Mark
Sometimes age isn't everything. I do admit, an eighteen year gap may have some risks but so does any relationship! Just relax, the only thing you can do right now is show support to your son. Maybe you could get to know his new girlfriend. There are two ways this could go -
1) They end up happily ever after
2) They break up
Whatever happens if you show support to your son, he'll know his Dad is always there for him. If they do break up and you come out with the classic Parental "I told you so" all you're going to get is a massive row. If you don't show support and keep on saying it won't work and it does, there is a fairly good chance he can "told you so" back.
Just keep cool, and go with the flow.
Maybe you could invite this girl round to Dinner?
All The Best -
Phoebe XxX
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reader, chunky_monkey +, writes (14 April 2006):
Age doesn't mean everything. As long as they have the asame maturity level and love each other, it really shouldn't matter. Love can just happen. People used to think the age gap between my boyfriend and I was too much even though we are only 2 years apart. I didn't listen to them, I didn't care that I was 16 and he was 18. I was happy and in love. Now here 2 years since I am 18 and he is 20 and we are still in as much love as we were when we first started dating and even considering marriage. I think you should just be worried if your son doesn't love the girl or if one of them treats the other one badly. Also be woried if she is trying to speed their relationship up. But if these things aren't happening just allow their love to prosper and all them to find out if they are the one of each other.
Good Luck
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