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writes:heyy. so i'm a 16 year old junior girl in highschool and as long as i can remember i've been really shy and socially awkward. i only hav a few friends but i want more.i absolutely dont do any extracurricular activities cuz i'm so scared of wat ppl will yhink of me or even do anything on the weekends.i dont even go on facebook and i'm pretty much afraid of wat ppl will think and how weird i sound or look wen i do something so i'm constantly thinking about all this stuff.i'm insecure but ive finally hav been able to look in the mirror and actually believe i'm pretty.i just started getting counseling 2 months ago at school which has helped cuz not only am i getting help i found a friend with similar experiences. ok so wat i want is to just be able to talk to ppl and strike up convos but i cant cuz its so hard and awkward for me.Believe me i would do absolutely anything under the sun to not b so socially awkward.this year i'm just mad at myself cuz i realize that if i dont change soon i'm never gonna change and i literally feel like i'm cracking because i cant take living my life lonely sometimes.so do u guys hav any advice? i mean i seriously want to change.if my life is still like this in the next 5 years i i'm gonna just run aroud outside screaming...jk..idk. so plz advice and sorry this is so long.thnx
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (4 December 2010):
 Social skills are exactly that... a skill at being social.
and how do we learn a skill?
We practice.
The more we practice, the better we get.
This is exactly the same with social skills. There is no magic pill for getting rid of social awkwardness... well booze, but none for you yet youngster! What you really need to do is throw yourself into as many social settings as you can. Force yourself to interact. Even if you feel like a fool... who cares?! Everybody is already way too focused on their own lives to care if you bumble around a few words.
Forget facebook, but its definitely worth trying some extracurricular activities!
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