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writes: I just learned yesturday that my sister is having problems in her marriage. Her husband has medical issues, but has become addicted to the pain medication. He lost his job a while ago (not due to the drugs), but my sister has been the main income support for the family for almost a year now. I was unaware of all her problems, but just today she said she was fed up and moved out of the house. Her husband was being almost crimially neglectful of their infant son, because he was asleep all the time. I guess my question is, I don't know what to say to her. How can I be helpful, and show I care? This is the weekend I will be seeing her, and I'm not sure how to help her, or what I can do to make her feel better. She has been keeping this to herself for some time now and I don't know how to go about this.
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reader, Bailey J +, writes (14 March 2007):
Hello
All you can do is be there for her. Try your best to be understanding,try and help out with your sisters child, that will take alot of pressure off her. and support her as much as you can. If she knows your there that will make some of her problem feel a little bit better.
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reader, Carina +, writes (14 March 2007):
Just the fact that you are there and that you care will help your sister a lot. She'll need to talk about everything that's happened and how she's feeling, so listen to her. Try not to interrupt or make judgements. Just be sympathetic. If there are practical things you can do to help, like babysitting her son sometimes, or keeping her company, then offer to do it when she needs you. She sounds as though she has been very strong for a long time now, keeping all this to herself, so be there for her to open up to. Go with your gut feelings and get outside help for her if you think it's necessary. I hope this helps.
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