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writes:hi i am 16 yrs old. i got raped by my sisters husband about 7 months ago when i was 15. i culdnt tell anyone because he use to say to me if i tell anyone he will ruin by sisters (his wife's) life. and i loved my sister alot. so for 2 months i dint tell anyone anything but then just after xmas i told my friend everything then with her help i told my oldest sister and she told our parents. when my sister (my brother in laws wife) found out about everything she did not think twice about me and sed i cant leave my husband. me and my sister have become so distance from each other. its been 5 months since we havent spoken to each other. i cant bare to c her face anymore because it reminds me they way she betrayed me over her husband who raped me. i just want to know if i was in the rong to stop talking to her or was she in the wrong? please let me know what you think of this.... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2009): why couldn't she see your hb fr the rapist that he is. she chose to stay with him, every day she will be wondering whether he really did it or not. (maybe she already knows). i think every time she has sex with him she feels violated. you must realise that he would have also poisoned her mind about the real events that occured.
i know it is hard but the right thing is to stay away from your sister. by doing this the rapist hb is also out of yoour life. if she comes back into your life, he will too. is this what you want.
i feel sorry for you, for his violation of you.
i also feel sorry for her- that she was weak and could not see right from wrong.
i think you should have told the police. if he got away with raping you, then how many more does he have to rape before someone is brave enough to bring him to book?
please stay away from anyone who has the potentioal to harm you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey thx for the responce all 3 ov u. no the plz dnt know because my parents go if you tell the plz it will become a big thing and they look down on the girl the guy doesnt giv to shits. ive gt a big family who always tlk shit if something happens in our family. so to keep my parents honour i hvnt tld the police. but if god forbid another incident occurs with my bro in law then surely i will gt him locked up! thnku for your concerns.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2009): brave...is whacking the bastard over the head with a frying pan! not hide in a corner scared he will follow through his lies or scared he will do it again. dont bow down to anyone either tell the police or knock him into county general!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2009): To me it seems like neither were in the wrong, just your brother in law.
Have the police been informed of your assualt?
It's always hard to believe that someone you love would do something so cruel and harmful, and your sister may believe you but is scared of what will happen if she were to leave him.
I think you need to talk to someone about your ordeal, and possibly invite your sister, or the friend that you told with you.
A rape is a terrible thing, and very hard to get over, if ever. This is something that you are most likely not to forget, or get over. Please don't do it alone.
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reader, jayne_staaa +, writes (20 May 2009):
shame on your sister, what happened to you, and she stood by that evil man, hunni you dont deserve any of this your sister isn't a good woman, and you are so much better off without her if she can pick an evil person over her own flesh and blood as a female she should no better and as a sister she should have got that man locked up. i really hope you get happyness, your really brave i commend you
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