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30-35,
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writes:I badly need your help in coping with my sister. She's always bossing me around and tries to play spoilsport in whatever i do. It started very early when she even tried to sexually assualt me. I was 10 at that time and all i could do was run away from her.Now im 21 and thankfully she hasnt made any further attempts. But she's always says that i wouldn't have been able to do anything, if she wouldn't be around. And she tells it all in front of my best buddies too. She'll compare every little thing and always tell me and whosoever is willing to listen, how pathetic i am and how great she is.Please just tell me how should i keep my calm. I hate fights and looking at her short temper i hate to tell her anything. Reply to this Question
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reader, Soconfused234  +, writes (23 December 2010):
 Obviously we can tell that your sister has been going through something that you don't know or she's not happy with herself so to feel better she picks on you. That's how all bullies are. One thing I would consider is atleast trying to talk to her as a sister. Find our what makes her the way she is. Jealousy can be a big part of this as well. I feel that she shouldn't have to make you feel like a complete failure so she can feel like shes on top. If this doesn't work DO NOT I repeat DO NOT fight with her. Fighting will just feed into what she wants. Don't argue. Just ignore her as if she does not exist. When she tries to say something or embaress you infront of your friends, laugh at her or if shes laughing, laugh with her. This will make her feel like shes not getting to you anymore and most likely she will give up. Just stay calm and be a grown up. Don't stoop down to her level because right now it seems as if she's acting like a 5 year old. Also, praying works (if you didnt already know that). Do these things and you won't have to worry about her anymore.
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (23 December 2010):
 Distance yourself from her and ignore her. Talk to your parents about it and see if they can make her stop.
Good Luck
xx
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