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*ranny1297
writes:I'm sorry this is long but please read it, please! I feel like my shyness is taking over my life really rapidly, I don't know what to do. I am scared of:.Meeting new people .Being the center of attention .Being watched while doing something .Making small talk .Public speaking .Performing on stage .Being teased or criticized .Talking with “important” people or authority figures .Being called on in class .Going on a date.Using public bathrooms .Taking exams .Eating or drinking in public .Speaking up in a meeting .Attending parties or other social gatherings .fear of making eye contact especially.Fear that i'll act in ways that that will embarrass or humiliate myself .Fear that others will notice that im nervous This is really annoying because it also shows on the outside too. I become:.Red face, or i blush.Shortness of breath .Upset stomach, nausea (i.e. butterflies) .Trembling or shaking (including shaky voice) .Racing heart or tightness in chest .Sweating or hot flashes .Feel dizzy or faint I don't understand whats wrong with me. I have home problems, and went to the school councellor, but she betrayed me and told my parents and teachers everything so I won't be trusting her ever again.I don't want to tell my mum because im pretty sure she'll criticise me or not do anything about this. I do have one trusted teacher, but he's male and I feel completely akward and shy, and I feel like if I tell him I might be wasting his time. I don't know. Maybe I shouldn't, am I just being paranoid. I fear more authority figures like teachers, and I don't know why. I can be quite confident around friends and family only!! But I'm sure my friends don't like me. Please help me, just anything, please?
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reader, franny1297 +, writes (20 February 2013):
franny1297 is verified as being by the original poster of the question my grandparents are dead, im not really close with any of my anties, uncles or cousins, i don't have siblings, but an older sister who bullies me :( i don't know. But thanks for the help everyone, i should find an adult eventually.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (20 February 2013):
 Dear Franny
It sounds like you have social anxiety mixed in with/ causing your shyness.
If you can't approach your mum about this, is there anyone else in the family you can talk to? An aunt or uncle, or grandparents?
I don't know why the school counsellor told your parents and teachers - maybe they are obliged to do that. It's a shame because you could really do with someone you can confide in.
Could an aunt or older cousin/ sibling take your for a chat with your GP? There are lots of little tricks we can do to take some control over anxiety, and stop getting anxiety about anxiety. A psychologist could help you in a short course of say 6 sessions.
Wish you all the best, Franny.
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reader, franny1297 +, writes (20 February 2013):
franny1297 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much, your so nice and calm.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (20 February 2013):
 franny honey it sounds like you are having anxiety attacks.
you must tell mum and you can see a doctor for some help with this... there is therapy and even medication for anxiety that is so paralyzing
oh and btw honey you are VERY NORMAL for a young lady of your age....
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reader, Seabreezes +, writes (20 February 2013):
It sounds like the basis of your issues stems from family problems, which you didn't really share (nor do you have to). However, unless those issues are dealt with, I don't know how you can tackle the shyness, which seems to be an effect of abuse, rather than the source of the problem. ((Hugs))Perhaps you could see a professional counselor, or talk to a pastor? You need to find an adult you can trust.
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