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My shyness criples me. How do I get over it?

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Question - (12 April 2009) 4 Answers - (Newest, 13 April 2009)
A male Nigeria age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Am a boy of 18, I finished secondary school education last year, now am a 100 level in engineering. My problem is shyness, I need a girlfriend but it would not allow me. I opportunities of having but this shyness does not allow. Please tell me what do i do. How do wear this shyness off me. Most times girls in my street, and school talks to me but am too shy to reply them, they ve all known me to be shy guy, and the worst of it that makes me go more shy is that they will jerk on me each time they we come across. Pls help me.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009):

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Thanks shiraz and all others. I will just start practicing as you have adviced. If there is any other tip to take let me know. Thanks.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009):

I used to be shy, but as the someone else mentioned only you can do it yourself. Being yourself and confident will change how others approach you. As a general question and then go with the flow. It will become easier to ask more direct and personal questions as you get to know the person. But if you don't take the chance even there is a chance you can be rejected, ladies will not be aware that you have an interest in them. Girls are aware when a guy is nervous, so you can tell the girl upfront. They will give you a chance if you try, and for those who don't they are not worth your time. Or you will have to just try again at another time.

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A female reader, Original shiraz! United Kingdom +, writes (12 April 2009):

Nobody can do it for you, its something you need to overcome yourself in order to achieve. People can guide you and give you tips but being shy is something in your mind that only you can trigger on and off.

Girls are obviously attracted to you yet as soon as they take interest you back off, without meaning too this can be really miss leading which is why girls back off so soon. You know what the problem is and the hard part is overcoming that. You need to act different, not over confident just use eye contact and smile, girls love it when a guy smiles their way. When you get talking to a girl be open with her, tell her you find it difficult and she will respect your honesty. Many girls are aware so it shouldnt be as hard but opening up means a lot to a girl try that and see how you get on. It will work out for you just takes time, but like everything will be worth the wait :) best of luck

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A male reader, Specter United States +, writes (12 April 2009):

Am the same way with only girl I took me 8 day to say it right to her LOL I would try talking to your self in the mirror and try it on a girl and then try it on a girl u like that's all I got good luck sorry if this does work

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