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writes:I am 28 year old women. I have been married for 5 years and my sex drive is A LOT higher than my husbands. I think about sex all day everyday. I stay so horny that my lower stomach cramps because i want to have sex with my husband so bad. I could have sex up to 10x a day and still wouldn't be totally satisfied. I have tried just about everything i know to keep my mind occupied on other things but my mind goes right back to square one. I am just curious if there is some kind of medical problem or is it just a normal part of being an aging woman? Please help me find the answer to my very serious question soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2010): I keep on re-reading that line about not being satisfied even with 10x a day. If sex is great, it will satisfy every time. Maybe your husband just doesn't give you the rocking sex or great orgasms you need to feel satisfied. Doing it often is normal. But it should be satisfying each time if it is done right. Maybe you need rougher sex or deeper penetration or something. Maybe toys? Masturbation? Yeah, dont go the F-buddy route. Make the marriage work.
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reader, sarahrose20  +, writes (12 September 2010):
if your not satisfied by your partner i would suggest otner alternatives to spice things up a bit. my boyfriend of 4 years now and i use toys. at first he was really insecure and didnt like me even owning them until he found out how much fun using them on me is
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reader, wisernow +, writes (12 September 2010):
Hi... There's no simple answer to your question my dear. But lets look at the facts. Women reach sexual maturity around the age of 29... so you are right at the peak of your sexual desires. Men reach this point at 18.... yup... 18... That's why young guys are so horny. l know. From 15 to 21 l had to masturbate 4 or even 5 times aday just to be able to think of anything other than the female anatomy.
Surveys have found the average adult male on an average day thinks about sex once every waking minute... So you are not alone in your desires.
So what to do? Its obvious you are romantic and loving when you're with your husband, but is his sex drive similar to yours?
If 10 times a day is not enough then your only solutions are massaging your clitoris to orgasm several times aday... perhaps buy yourself a dildo ... why not? A string of lovers might do the trick but this would destroy you and your narriage.
If you reply l will offer more wisdom and/or ideas.
l am a happily married man of 76 married to a lovely youung lady of 25.... my third wife.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2010): Well I hope you told him how you feel. Your situation is a little unusual, high testosterone for a female. Get a vibrator, but keep your husband as involved as possible.
Lucky guy if he can handle it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2010): Honey welcome to your sexual prime!
This is what it's like for us guys around 16-20. It's always on our mind, do you remember how piggish and horny all the guys in your high school and college years were? How you neve 'got' their utter preoccupation with sex?
Have you ever found yourself irritated at a boyfriend when it seemed that all he ever wanted from you was sex? You had so many other cool things going on, and he always had a one track mind?
As a woman enters her mid tewnties to her early thirties, she approaches her sexual peak. Her body chemistyr is changing in some important ways, and her libido will skyrocket.
This is not a medical problem, it's nature's way of telling you that the timer on your biological clock is getting closer to the alarm bell.
In years to come, I hope you remember well what it's like to walk around horny as hell all day long, only to go to sleep and dream about sex! I hope you can try from time to time to imagine what it must be like to be a barely post pubescent youngster, with no real perspective on life, and no commitment bonds of any sort to try and deal with that. I hope you can try and imagine what it's like to have that powerful one two punch happen just as you're coming into adulthood, in some very formitive years.
Then, maybe next time you hear a woman say 'men are pigs' you'll punch her one in the mouth for all of use who had to go through the hell I just described while being ridiculed and looked down on by society at large for being utterly unprepared for what was coming.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2010): Have your hormone levels checked. Your testosterone may be too high. If it isn't your husband is a lucky man; too bad he isn't down with the 10 x a day sex though. He needs to clone himself about 3 times and that would probably take care of it!! I hope you are able to figure it out. Also, if you masturbate and orgasm does the desire diminish temporarily (a few hours??) if so try masturbating a few times a day. It seems to work for men. Good luck!
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