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writes:Hi. I have a random question not related to love. My roommate has a boyfriend and she has asked me if he could stay in the room with us (she said they would not do anything.) At first I told her I was ok with it, but then I told her honestly it makes me uncomfortable. Recently she asked if he could sleep on the floor in a sleeping bag. I said "I guess..." But really, this still makes me feel uncomfortable. It's his presence in the room that makes me feel uncomfortable. I don't know how to bring this up, because I don't want to start a fight. Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2010): Well my roommates bf came not too long ago and i also felt uncomfortable so i just went to sleep in another friends room. I was lucky this friend of mine gave me her bed, but if not just have her get an inflatable mattress
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (30 November 2010):
 MMM..You already agreed he could stay. If she already told him he could stay, it would be rather inconvenient to take that back. Is it just for the weekend? Hotels may be expensive in your area, and he may not want to spend the money. At least she's going to be respectful and not engage in any sexual activity.
I would tell her you're not entirely comfortable with him staying there, and explain why. Whatever your reasoning may be. Now, if you want to avoid confrontation you could crash at another friend's apartment, door room while he's visiting.
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reader, FloridaCatGirl +, writes (30 November 2010):
 I'm sorry you are having to deal with this. I am curious... Is her boyfriend coming for a visit? How long will he be there? Do you have a friend who would let you sleep in her room for a night? Assuming you are in a dorm room, is there a tv lounge with a sofa he can sleep on? If you decide to let him sleep in the room, you might ask that he wear clothes... like shorts and a t-shirt.
Let us know what happens. Good luck!
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