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writes: I've got two best friends and we've known each other since we were about 4 years old (we're all 17 now). Recently, one of my friends (*Dee) has got a boyfriend and she spends all of her time with him, and as a result, me and my other friend (*Shannyn) have became closer. Now Dee is deliberately leaving me out when we're together and is blaming me for things I have done, including trying to turn Shannyn against her and take her away from Dee. I've talked to her, but she doesn't seem to understand that they're both my best friends and that Dee's bitching is really getting me down. She just tells me I'm imagining things. Is there anything I can do?
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reader, Green_Eyez +, writes (29 September 2005):
This all sounds very 'school-yard'. Dee sounds like she is very jealous and you should confront her about her childish behaviour. Explain to her that she has a boyfriend now and just because you and Shannyn hang out whilst she is with him, doesn't mean you are trying to push her out of the circle. What does she want you to do sit at home seperately, waiting for her call to bring you all together? I know you've known her a long time but she sound's like she needs to grow up and, frankly, she sounds like a bit of a bitch. If it carries on do yourself a favour and find some new mates.
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reader, I Dont Lie +, writes (29 September 2005):
 Its good that you came clean to her about how you felt. But from what Im reading, I reckon shes not buying any of it and still feels resentful for what you've allegedly done to herself. I suggest you let her clam down and give her some space. That doesnt mean you should avoid her, just be yourself when you're around her. And if she doesnt like that and still bitches about you, you'll then realise what sort of mate she is. You dont need friends who dont need you, and worse still, bitch about you and refuse to give you even the slightest bit of benefit of the doubt!! That says a lot on how much she trusts you and deems you as a friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2005): I think at this age, people begin to grow apart. its not anything you did and there isn't much you CAN do...its just the way it is. And it for sure sucks.
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